Been married for 19 years, faithfully monogamous for around 25. Still think wifey is beautiful, but - well - I'm bored. We keep trying, and keep doing kinkier stuff in an attempt to keep things fresh, but I don't know how much further we can take that.

I kind think I've got options with two different women at work, and even though they are not as attractive (at least to me) as wifey, I'm very much drawn to the "newness" that they offer.

I keep thinking that it would take a lot of pressure off of wifey and I (and that I could be more content with less kinky/more loving sex if I pursued one or both of those options. But I really do love my wife & would be devastated if she somehow found out.

One of the two is married as well, and I think wants to stay that way. I'm kind of thinking of moving in that direction. I'm a bit scared of starting something up with the single gal (even though she is younger/hotter) just because she's got nothing really to lose by "going public."

Anybody been there and have feedback?