Territorial Imperative At Work

I turned 40 this year, my marriage ended in divorce ten years ago. I have a man who moved in on my life and imposes his control on me. Including sex. I am helpless to assert myself. No words cone out, no action happens. I cook now, and every day it starts with 'what do you want me to fix for you?'.

It bothers me if he walks into my kitchen, when it's time to serve I will call him. When we are done, I serve his coffee in the den. I clean up and when the kitchen is clean I join him in the den. I'm a control freak about my territory, just as much of he is a control freak with me. It does not escape me that to him I am his territory.

I had sex again last night, because he wanted sex and I complied. Refusing him sex is an affront he can't let stand. I'm his territory and he needs to 'show' me he's boss. I don't think when it's time to cook, or get the broom and sweep up. He doesn't think when it's time to have sex.