Where I useed to work, the communications department are able to read e mails from employee to employee. What about your company?
We use our personal e-mails not the company e-mails. Do you think they can read those?
probably not I guess.
It's possible to read any traffic going into and out of the company network.
It's not usual at all, but possible.
Forgetting that for now, co-workers can frequently tell when their peers are getting up to office hijinks.
If he's masturbating 3 times a day in the office wash room, it may easily have been noticed.
You're both already heavily in lust, so just go for it already.
You're single so just invite him over one evening after work.
That way you won't be wasting your employer's time or making co-workers unduly suspicious.
So stop wondering and go for it. Sounds like it will happen eventually anyway and then you'll just be kicking yourself about all the time you wasted. On the other hand maybe he's got an itty bitty pee pee and won't be able to satisfy you, the little tease game will be over, and you'll be back to long boring days at work.
You don't get your honey where you get you money. Are you crazy! You could loose your job and have a nasty bitter wife after you.... Plus, wives are not stupid... Remember, you only get one side of the story....