- My Cheating Heart -

Straight Male / 38

I Really Don't Want To

My wife is hot. 5'2 115 with 32F natural firm boobs. She gets cosmetic surgery every now and then (not on her boobs). She takes pride in looking about 15 years younger than me. She is like having a brand new Ferrari that sits in your garage and you can never drive. Invite your buddies over "yeah she's a beauty alright". "How's she drive?" "I have no idea". You get the picture.

We live in west Florida. When we go to the beach with her in a bikini guys stop what they are doing to gawk at her. I've seen volleyball games dead stop for them all to stare, they aren't even discreet about it. She loves it of course.

I'm not an old guy who can't get it up or a tiny dick guy. It's decent sized very thick and works great. My bedroom skills aren't the problem either. I've had several FWB's that can attest to that and tell me "what the hell is her problem, if I had you all the time I'd fuck your brains out". I stay in good shape myself, work out a lot and very healthy to keep up with her.

I stay for my kids, it's not easy to pick up and leave them.

We've had sex once this year. It was so boring and uninspiring it makes me not even want to talk her into it. I've tried to spice things up, toys, lingerie, dirty talk, porn, nothing works.

Even though I've had a few FWB's over the years my heart isn't into cheating. I just want a normal life with a wife who wants regular hot sex.

The problem is, there's a couple that he can't get it up anymore and she's a horny thing and they constantly beg me to come over and fuck her. I want to fuck my wife and have hot sex, but when it's zero at home a guy can only hold out for so long before he needs some, or any, pussy. I don't want to, but I can't keep going month after month without any when someone is begging me to do them, saying they will do anything I ask them to do.

Life is weird sometimes...

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# 66997 - by IDontWanna / August 9, 2023

by Anonymous on Aug 9, 2023 at 7:42 PM

Pretty much a "Cut-N-Paste" of my life and marriage.

We were on the "Once every three years for 5 minutes whether you needed it or not" program.

I didn't want to divorce and did everything to prevent it but once the divorce train left the station, I couldn't get out of town quick enough. I think she thought it was going to be a negotiating ploy - it wasn't. I was done.

YUP - like you, I couldn't take it anymore. I finally caved and had an affair - best relationship of my life. I should have married her in the first place. Loved her with all my heart.

When my wife found out, I said to her, "Do you know what you never found out about X - because I didn't want you to. Do you know why you DID finally find out about X? Because I quit caring if you did"

I'm a million times happier now.

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by Seagull57 on Aug 10, 2023 at 4:23 AM

Like you, she must be getting it somewhere. Get some solid proof that she's cheating and get the hell out! Torturing yourself for the sake of the kids is noble, but foolish. You're still young, find someone who truly loves you!

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by logan2020 on Aug 10, 2023 at 6:20 AM

My ex-wife wasn't hot or pretty, but like so many men, we had a dead bedroom. I also offered and tried anything and everything to make things better, but she wasn't interested. She preferred to stay home, read books, and do online shopping or eBay.

We eventually divorced, and I definitely don't regret that.

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 7:40 AM

Do Not, I repeat, Do Not waste any more time.
Because time is the one thing you can't get back.

Take it from me, who just turned 70, the window on youth closes fast and though today
you're 40 something and in great shape, in the blink of an eye,
you're 60 something and your not like you used to be and can't get back to it.

And stop with the woe-is-me, I don't want to cheat but I do bcuz I only get to fuck my wife once a year even though she looks great in a t-back and drives all the other guys crazy at the beach.

And worse, don't use the "I stay with her because of the kids" excuse.

And I'll tell you why, and this from a custodial father who's been through several divorces with custody of multiple kids :

Your kids will be fine. They're kids. They're the most adaptable creatures on earth

And if your kids are like mine, more-or-less normal American kids, they're inherently selfish.
Not blatantly selfish, but just self-absorbed and focused on what they want.

They will act like they care, but they really do not care.
They could give two shits if you get divorced.
And that's not because they're shitty kids.
It because they're just kids.

As long as THEIR lives remain essentially the same, they can stay in the same schools and keep all their friends, that they have at least as much money to spend as before, and that they get most of the shit they ask for, which they will if they're normal kids that are trying to do what they know they're supposed to do in school and at home.

Also, it's something else they can blame shit on when things go wrong or they fuck up, which they will a lot but not any more than normal.

As for you, do first what Commenter #2 suggested :
TALK TO HER
I'm wondering how your marital sex life got as bad as it is.

Takes two to not give a shit.
She acts the way she does because thinks you don't give a shit because you act like you don't because you think she doesn't.
If she looks like you say and loves to be seen at the beach, something is way way fucking wrong.
And it may be too late.

But be real honest and tell her how you want it to be and if she is willing to work with you on that for the sake of your marriage.
Sounds like you have a lot to talk about because if she's as hot as you say and you're as desirable as you claim, you should be fucking every day.

Or, just move out, get a place where the kids can come stay with you when they want, and start by going to visit that couple with the husband that has ED.

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 11:24 AM

Thanks for the comments.

To comment #4 I didnt post this for pity or "woe-is-me" as you say, I'm just venting and figure there's a lot of other guys, and probably women too, in the same situations.

Yeah your kids might have been ok with your splits. But I went through a couple of divorces as a kid and despite how yours may act, for many of us, it did have an effect. It did on me anyway. And no, I don't blame all my faults and problems on the divorces and I can't stand people who do that, it's just an excuse.

However. Nothing like working your ass off all Summer and Fall to do well in football, be a starter and a Captain. Play hard, do well, and after the game see all the other kids with their parents and Dad's telling them what a great job they did and I have no one. Mom too embarassed to go to the games by herself. My Mom, bless her heart, worked her ass off to provide for us, but the divorce devestated her to the point she struggled just to get by. So from age 12 I was on my own. Home alone pretty much until I moved out for college.

I turned out ok, but I could have turned out better. I was forced to make sacrifices that I shouldn't have had to make.

Yeah I miss sex, intimacy, and romance. But I bury all that just to give my kids a somewhat normal life and always be there for them, always provide a "normal" family.

I know you'll say well mine are normal, and good for you. And my FWBs dont understand why I stay either since I could have all the love, sex and intimacy I want with them. But I will never forget how all that made me feel, and I'll be damned if I put my kids through that.

And yes I know the clock is ticking. We do what we have to do. Right or wrong, it's what I think is the right decision. Just another sactifice you make for your kids...

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 4:50 AM

Maybe your wife has a FWB, male or even female. Be honest with her about your needs and find out the problem. Who knows what it could lead to.

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 9:34 AM

" They constantly beg me to come over and fuck her".....Priecless. LOL.

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 6:21 PM

OP here. I told the couple no. Guess the moral side of me won again this week.

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by Anonymous on Aug 10, 2023 at 10:50 PM

Maybe you can introduce the couple to me, am also in your same situation

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by Anonymous on Aug 11, 2023 at 6:30 AM

Get her to a swingers party. Maybe what you have is good but not her thing. Maybe she prefers smaller dick or is bi-curious

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