Trust Is Hard For Me, Now God Is Testing Me

I bought a small house in an older neighborhood, close to work, lots of trees. I had to take it as is, and deal with issues as they come up. I can't update or remodel as just buying the house has stretched me to the breaking point. Hopefully my car doesn't breakdown. I don't want a housemate, but reality forces me to get one. I decided not to have anyone I know move in.

My neighbor, a man in his sixties gave me a lecture about someone I don't know moving in with me. The argument ended by him 'taking' the other room and filling it with his niece when she graduates. I just met her.

Over the last weeks he has inspected my house for electrical, hvac, plumbing, appliances. He has lots of experience, it's a pre-inspection. He has hired a building contractor for the roof and structural. I didn't know about all these inspections. Now, he also wants to update the bathroom and kitchen, bring it into the 21st century.

I met his niece, she's a nice girl, but she will come into a compromised situation. A couple of other things, his lawn care guy is doing my lawn now. He wants his maid to come over once a week. And he and his buddy are painting the outside, how long before he is painting the inside? By the time he's done with me I'll have my dream bungalow.

I can't repay him. I know 'he would never let his daughter live in the place like I bought it'. I'm not his daughter. I mean right now he has a key so he can get the updates done, the painting. When his niece moves in, he will always have a key, and I have to go to bed knowing he can walk into my room when he wants to. I've never had to 'trust' like I now have to. I've never met anyone like him.