Found Out My Late Wife Had A Lesbian Affair

I'm the first to admit I had an affair before she did. She found out about the other woman, but we worked through it. I was truly sorry, and I never cheated on her again. She forgave me and we grew close again, at least that's what I thought.

My wife died suddenly a year ago from a heart attack at 52. When I eventually felt like going through her things, I found nothing too strange at first. There was an encrypted folder in her computer, and I finally finally found the key to it in one of her closets just this week. In the folder were photos and saved emails. The emails were dated 16 years ago. The photos showed them cuddling and romantically kissing together. I didn't recognize where they were. There were also very explicit photos of them naked and intertwined near a swimming pool. The emails were exchanges between the two. They wrote like giddy, infatuated lovers which I guess they were. It was a whole other side of my wife's personality I never saw. Fun, light, humorous. She was always serious and responsible around me, maybe because we had three kids, all of whom are grown now.

I never had a clue my wife was bi. We always had great sex except for the time of my affair. The other woman and her husband no longer live in the area, but she flew in for my wife's funeral. She was really devastated, and now I see why. I wonder who all knew about this. I don't really know how I feel yet. I don't know what it says about me, but I know I'd be a lot angrier if it were another guy instead of a woman.