Let Your Spouse Know What You Need

After 30 plus yours of marriage I was thinking about how we became comfortable with each other’s needs. We have always been up front with our needs and desires even if they didn’t 100% align . I said to my to be wife ,early on, I never wanted her to fake an orgasm . Looking back I think this laid a foundation for our sex life. She also told me she had been using a vibrator for years. That revaluation was a huge turn on for me. And I let her know it and have bought her many toys over the years and encouraged to use them any time she feels the itch.
So we are open about we like . Although I like to talk about sex more, she is comfortable with many different things.
Our sexy time together mostly consisted of me cumming between her ass cheeks then her using her wand while we both play with her nipples and I finger her ass and pussy. She will cum multiple times this way .
She will still go solo a couple of times a week and usually tells me about it because she knows I find the thought of her lying in bed naked using her vibrator and playing with her nipples sexy as hell.
One night while we were playing I was sucking one of her nipples, she started licking the other . Later I told her how sexy that was . I didn’t know but she had been doing it solo for years. So now she will tease me sometimes when I am going down on her and she will tell me she is sucking her own nipple.
I guess the point of this confession is don’t be afraid to be your self and let your spouse know what you like. I think it will lead to better long term relationships.