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It's Political
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Lesbian Female / 41
Entrapment, Just Barely Legal. Kicked Off Our Decision To Have Babies
Everything was right until it wasn't. My roommate and SO lover was busted selling to a minor. A set up for dure, but within the very thin edge of being within the law. She got fifteen years, served seven for good behavior and then probation. Her childbearing years. While she was incarcerated she pushed me, begged me really, to have babies for her. There was no way of knowing if she would get out before she was forty.
I asked a friend to get me pregnant. I was thirty, her fifth year of incarceration. At first it was artificial insemination like they use on livestock. When he understood what they had to do to milk him. Either 'natural' by intercourse or find another 'donor'. Hell then, do it.
I had a totally normal pregnancy and a totally healthy boy. I breast fed for six months. Took 'our' baby to see her. We were allowed to be together, supervised, but be together. She was able to hold the baby. No kidding, have another one.
I needed help from the father, affordability is a problem. He agreed, but he got father privileges. Going for another one was a different matter. But he agreed, if he got benefits. Play husband. Live together, having children. My SO said ho for it, small price to pay to get children.
She was released very quickly, one day she got probation. She demanded a third baby. She was out, she was 33, she could get pregnant. She agreed, she would have our third one and we would get married. Baby daddy wanted to be the one the one to marry me, and have the third baby with me. We had a 'draw', three cards, two bests won. She won fair and square. She won the baby.
She had a baby, he demanded rights to the children, and from me. We needed his support, not just financial. We had three children, my SO was unemployable, on probation. I never had a high paying job. So the choice was to marry him, get insurance, secure our babies' roof over their head. And that's what we did. I had my third, our fourth two years later.
Probation is over, she paid her debt to society, she is taking courses, and is the stay at home mom. I've now been married five years, three plus one of hers, four children. That's our debt to society, paid in full.
I asked a friend to get me pregnant. I was thirty, her fifth year of incarceration. At first it was artificial insemination like they use on livestock. When he understood what they had to do to milk him. Either 'natural' by intercourse or find another 'donor'. Hell then, do it.
I had a totally normal pregnancy and a totally healthy boy. I breast fed for six months. Took 'our' baby to see her. We were allowed to be together, supervised, but be together. She was able to hold the baby. No kidding, have another one.
I needed help from the father, affordability is a problem. He agreed, but he got father privileges. Going for another one was a different matter. But he agreed, if he got benefits. Play husband. Live together, having children. My SO said ho for it, small price to pay to get children.
She was released very quickly, one day she got probation. She demanded a third baby. She was out, she was 33, she could get pregnant. She agreed, she would have our third one and we would get married. Baby daddy wanted to be the one the one to marry me, and have the third baby with me. We had a 'draw', three cards, two bests won. She won fair and square. She won the baby.
She had a baby, he demanded rights to the children, and from me. We needed his support, not just financial. We had three children, my SO was unemployable, on probation. I never had a high paying job. So the choice was to marry him, get insurance, secure our babies' roof over their head. And that's what we did. I had my third, our fourth two years later.
Probation is over, she paid her debt to society, she is taking courses, and is the stay at home mom. I've now been married five years, three plus one of hers, four children. That's our debt to society, paid in full.
