I'm with you, I'm a guy and sometimes ya just have to hold it for a while, but its far less embarrassing to say hold up a few guys I gotta piss. but someone always says something like man thats the third time today what the hell you drinking?
Other then short term like a day or two, holding your pee in for long periods of time DOES NOT weaken your bladder; it makes it stronger just like exercising any other muscle makes them stronger. One cause of weak bladder muscle is taking a pee at the slightest urge all the time.
In answer to your remarks about holding your pee, you forget some facts that cause you to wet your pants.
Imagine you are on a bus and you get caught in traffic and cannot get off anywhere. That morning you had orange juice and coffee and some eggs. But something you ate, pepper on the eggs or salt or something else causes your system to react in such a way that your make a lot of urine. This does happen unexpectly at times,an apparent allergy. Once I had a mild bladder infection, didnt feel a thing, didnt have to pee and had n warning. I was in an assembly in school and my bladder filled up like crazy and was needing to pee so bad. Somehow I held it but I know of girls and boys that had that and just went in their pants. Ya normally you can hold your pee for hours but add a few various factors and you can be ready to wet your pants too real quick.. Oh yes and theres the keyhole factor. You have to pee some but not real bad, you are holding ok. You get to you house and unlock the door and head to the toilet, but as you get close the pee urge hits hard and its all you can do to not wet your pants. You drop your jeans and want to get on the toilet or unzip your pants and try to go and pee, but your spincter says otherwise, it fails right now and you start in your clothes. I have had that happen and was able to drop my pants fast and let er rip.
Ask people if you want they will tell you about that.
So its possible for a grown person to have to go so bad you can wet in an instant some times.
Donnie
Try this...
Go to a concert, drink lots of beer and then get onto a bus without toilets at 11pm for a one hour drive from London to Reading. Add to that the fact that you get stuck in a three mile traffic jam because of accident / roadworks. Also add a bus driver who refuses to stop.
I'm a girl and unlike the boys on the bus I am unable to wee in a bottle.
By 11:20 I already need a wee. By 11:40 I really need a wee. By 12am I am bursting for a wee. By 12:15 I am totally frantic and just don't know what to do. Despite my frantic pleading to the driver, he still refuses to stop. And so, by 12:30 I am starting to wet my knickers. Just a little bit leaks out at first, but eventually I simply cant hold on anymore - it's just too painful and there really is nothing else I can do. Nothing sexual about it in my view (I know some people do find 'it' a turn-on), just desperation, pure and simple
Hope this explains things for you?