I am fairly fluent in man speak and you are not wrong. I'm assuming that a divorce lawyer is not cheap. I'm also assuming that you are in a platonic relationship with your neighbor? If he was willing to lend you large sums of money, he should have spoken to you beforehand to discuss a detailed repayment plan. "You will pay me $200 per month". That type of thing. To simple shrug it of by saying "you know" is unfair to you. Even if he was willing to barter the repayment for sexual favors; that should have been stipulated, too!
Something like "I will receive oral twice a week and intercourse once a month" or whatever terms he chooses. Apologize, explain the reasons for your confusion and agree and terms of repayment.
Claudia, you have every right to be confused. I assume that divorce lawyers are not cheap. I'm also assuming that you and your neighbor have a platonic relationship. Anyone who lends a friend a large some of money, should discuss repayment term beforehand. "You can pay me $200 a month for 24 months". That type of thing. Or, if you both agree to barter sex for repayment, that too should be spelled out. "I get oral once a week and intercourse once a month". Whatever, you two negotiate. Simply shrugging it off with a casual "you know" is unfair to you! Apologize to him. Explain how you were confused and get solid term on how to pay.
