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Women Only
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Lesbian Female / 70
The Feminist Delusion
I think of this as the Feminist delusion.
I was a feminist, in all it's glory. I marched for the ERA, I burned my bra, I opted in as a lesbian. I became a lawyer, worked for the ACLU. I began a legal assistance center for women, abused, divorce, discrimination. A lifetime for an empty cause.
Somewhere in my fifties I began to recognize my disappointment. Women weren't better, they were lonelier and poorer. The utopia was a mirage, it never materialized. The lesbian life, without children is a special disappointment. The legal practice was mostly pro bono, other's winning while I was losing. It takes a cold shower to come to the conclusion, I had become the sucker of the delusion.
Are women really better with out men in their lives? No, never. Is domestic violence one sided? No, not likely. Women are deep in it, contributing to the problem. Are women so discriminated? Or is it a convenient excuse? My experience leans to the latter, I found very rare instances of raw discrimination.
Now let's get to the heart of the matter. Women want to marry, be a wife, be a mother. Women choose, elect, jobs, careers, vocations suited to their natural inclinations. I found no woman fighting to be an ironworker building skyscr**ers. I lost my predisposition of assuming women wanted the 'male' world.
In sum, I am not a feminist, I've changed my mind on abortion, I regret not having married, become a mother. The ERA distorts reality. Women are human, they have their place in society, with out women being women our lives, society, would be poorer. It's okay to worship the ground he walks on, to want to bear his children, to want to cook Thanksgiving dinner. I love women, I myself am a woman, I like that about me. I find that there is no better place than sharing the kitchen with the other women in my life.
I was a feminist, in all it's glory. I marched for the ERA, I burned my bra, I opted in as a lesbian. I became a lawyer, worked for the ACLU. I began a legal assistance center for women, abused, divorce, discrimination. A lifetime for an empty cause.
Somewhere in my fifties I began to recognize my disappointment. Women weren't better, they were lonelier and poorer. The utopia was a mirage, it never materialized. The lesbian life, without children is a special disappointment. The legal practice was mostly pro bono, other's winning while I was losing. It takes a cold shower to come to the conclusion, I had become the sucker of the delusion.
Are women really better with out men in their lives? No, never. Is domestic violence one sided? No, not likely. Women are deep in it, contributing to the problem. Are women so discriminated? Or is it a convenient excuse? My experience leans to the latter, I found very rare instances of raw discrimination.
Now let's get to the heart of the matter. Women want to marry, be a wife, be a mother. Women choose, elect, jobs, careers, vocations suited to their natural inclinations. I found no woman fighting to be an ironworker building skyscr**ers. I lost my predisposition of assuming women wanted the 'male' world.
In sum, I am not a feminist, I've changed my mind on abortion, I regret not having married, become a mother. The ERA distorts reality. Women are human, they have their place in society, with out women being women our lives, society, would be poorer. It's okay to worship the ground he walks on, to want to bear his children, to want to cook Thanksgiving dinner. I love women, I myself am a woman, I like that about me. I find that there is no better place than sharing the kitchen with the other women in my life.
