Have A Boyfriend But…
- That's Juicy! 14
- Remove It! 7
Your BF needs to get with it. 60% of hetero marriages involve cheating at some point, and 99.999999% of gay marriages.
He needs to accept that you are going to take other dick from time to time. He can fuck other guys, too.
Seems like a win-win arrangement.
Don't tell him you make out with other guys, though. That's when the insecurity will set in. Obviously you're in love with your FWB, but that's something your BF doesn't need to know.
Bryan, have you ever noticed, as you sink your cock into your boyfriend's hole, that he's a little loose, and very wet, even though you haven't put any lube?
He's taking other dick as well.
Monogamy in gay relationships is an illusion. (It's also an illusion in more than half of straight relationships.)
Now, you could tell your boyfriend, and undermine your relationship with anger, jealousy, possessiveness, and fear of abandonment, or you could continue taking other dick.
It would become a lot less exciting if you were officially allowed to do it.
It would also be less exciting for your BF. He knows. As you penetrate him, he wonders if you know he just got fucked. You both get turned on by the secrecy and subversion and excitement. You have great sex, and the minute you both cum, all is forgiven and you cuddle up to sleep.
The smart thing to do (and this is true for gay and straight people, and regardless of any commitments made in the relationship) is to protect yourself. Talk with your licensed medical professional. Make sure you've had all relevant vaccines: HPV, Hep A, Hep B, meningitis, Mpox. Get on PrEP and DoxyPEP. Get tested for STIs at least every 3 months. These measures are all free to insured and uninsured people in the US. Maybe you can have conversations with your FWB and your BF and encourage them to protect themselves as well. No one should ever rely on another person's behavior to protect their own sexual health.
Last thought - If you do tell your BF, don't tell him about the kissing. Obviously you have some love for your FB. That would be your BF's greatest fear. You can love two people in different ways and for different reasons. It's OK. What you have with your FB, and what your BF probably has with the other guys who fuck him, doesn't diminish your love for each other. It doesn't change the fact that you come home to each other and fuck every night.