Ass To Mouth

This is not really a confession per se, more of a question. I want to know if ass to mouth only counts if it is pulled straight from the ass and put straight into the mouth only or does it also count if I take it out of their ass, jerk off for 5 minutes then put it in their mouth. I ask because I brought it up to my wife how we have done ass to mouth a few times and she says we haven't. Basically a few times during anal she got too sore, I pulled out, jacked off, sometimes it wasnt even 5 minutes, and when I was about to cum she would either put her mouth over it to swallow or I would put it in her mouth to swallow. She says it wasn't ass to mouth even though the lube and stuff were still there, I says it was ass to mouth.