My Father In Law

To point out some quick facts: I am 42. I have been married for 24 years to Sam. Our marriage more resembles a friendship than us being lovers. We have one child who is already living on her own. My father in law is Justin and he is 64.

Justin and Sam have an arms length relationship. Is isn’t great and it isn’t bad. Justin and I have always had a good relationship. This is until two weeks ago.

Sam and I talked about separating due to the perceived ‘lack of desire to be together’ we both felt. It isn’t something I thought I would ever do but I understand why is may need to be done. During the few first days, Justin was very supportive of both of us. Then one night, after a bit too much to drink, I kissed him. He kissed me back. This led to us having sex in his hot tub, then his bed, then the next day in his truck at the park.

At this point, I am confused. I do not feel like I was taken advantage of, but I question the timing. We could have fucked at any point, if it were going to happen. Also, he fucked me really good. I liked it and I want more. I feel like this will ruin Sam if he finds out.

Should I just say no more to Justin?

Comments

Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 2, 2025 at 10:06 PM

Truthfully, yes. You need to break it off immediately if not sooner. You never even gave this separation with your husband and any possible reconnection a chance. Now you've probably doomed your marriage. The both of you need to take this to your graves but know when the Sam finds out, and he will find out, there will be hell to pay. For you, for Justin, and anyone else in your lives. Justin is a real piece of shit scumbag. You are too. For someone betrayed like Sam what you've done, and what Justin has done, is unforgivable.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 2, 2025 at 11:05 PM

you could be honest with sam, and break it off - and get with justin. Or you could try to 'work it out' with sam, and keep getting with justin. Why would you ever give up something good?

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Seagull57

by Seagull57 on Apr 3, 2025 at 3:54 AM

Marisa, the situation is not ideal, but it can be salvaged. First thing to do is cool things with Justin for a bit. You've have your fun and although it was probably very necessary, to continue fucking him at this time will cloud your judgement. Second, you really need to decide what you want! Is there any love left with Sam? Is the separation simply a chance to get used to being alone? Talk to him. What changes are you willing to make to remain together? Can you see happiness at in the relationship again? If it seems doomed, then divorce may be the correct path.
Finally, even if you divorce Sam, an ongoing relationship with a man 20+ years older than you is not a realistic answer. Best of luck!

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 3, 2025 at 5:17 AM

When my husband left us my FIL was over all the time making sure everything was okay with us, he would not put his son down for leaving and just made sure we were taken care of well. There was a pretty bad storm one night, he showed up at like ten pm in the middle of it. He walked in and like a minute later the power went out, kids were crying and I was not exactly scared just a little worried about how severe it seemed to be, I had a wave of relief come over me when he showed up. The storm is calming down, we get the kids who are sleeping off the floor and to their beds, he is closing one of the bedroom doors and whispers should be all good now and I was like Oh, no, you are not leaving yet. He kept saying we should not do this, age difference, how would it look but when I got him into my bedroom all his defenses went down. When he left about an hour later I was walking back to my bedroom wishing he had taught his son half of how to pleasure a woman like he did.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 3, 2025 at 6:11 AM

anon2 is right. Leave hubby once and for all, marry father-in-law. How often do you someone with whom you have that kind of sexual chemistry?

Yeah, Sam will be angry and there'll be a rift between him and his dad, but if he'd wanted to keep you, he would have been a better husband.

It takes the experience of a father-in-law to truly satisfy a woman.

Sons, watch out, your dads are fucking your wives when you're not looking.

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