Married Affair Partner Keeps Doing Stuff With Wife And Family

Biding time is the hard part in an affair like ours, single girl (me, 23) with married man (him, 42).

When we met 4 years ago, his marriage was already on life support. She wasn't giving him sex, which was bad enough, but she also puts him down constantly. She only cares about his paycheck and her children.

He found a divorce lawyer he trusts 6 months ago, and the paperwork is drafted. But now there's a snag. The wife suggested a family vacation for Spring Break. He hates every minute with her but he can't disappoint her kids. They are driving down to SoCal, staying at a motel, and seeing Disneyland plus local attractions.

When they do this kind of thing, of course it's hard for him to call or text. It gets pretty lonely for both of us. I just hope the wife doesn't try to make a move on him. There's no way he'd be interested in sex with her after years of going without. He prefers my young, tight body. We've talked and we would both regard it as cheating if he had sex with her. They don't even kiss anymore!

Her kids are another problem. They put him down too. They're constantly demanding rides, money, and time. He's an important exec, so his time is limited. In the divorce he figures she'll fight for full custody. If I ever have to be step-mom, I'll teach her kids discipline.

He and I want to start a family. I miscarried soon after we met. That's hard no matter what, but it hurts even more because if our baby had lived, he would have had to leave his wife right away. These years won't come back. The wife is basically stealing time from us.

I'm hoping I'm pregnant now, which would give him a little good news and a reason to sneak away and answer my texts while he's vacationing with the wife and her kids. I often daydream about what it will be like when we take OUR kids on their first trip to Disneyland.

Hopefully the drudgery next week will motivate him and he'll tell the lawyer to file the divorce papers and have the wife served, as soon as he gets back. For me, it's one more week of hugging the giant teddy bear he bought me, who keeps me warm when he can't come over. Maybe if God hears my prayers, he can leave work early and see me before he heads home and starts the drive down south. I love to treat him like a king. Especially blowjobs, which the wife never did, even before she lost interest in sex. I love him and I know we will be together soon.

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WHOREYENIE

by WHOREYENIE on Apr 4, 2025 at 2:23 PM

I need to give you some advice and teach you how to not get to sprung know your roll its better i don’t mind knowing that im his side chick that’s all we will ever be they won’t leave their wife for a whore they respect the wife that’s why i send them home happy doing what she will never do i think your to young trust me i have lots of experience at it good luck

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 4, 2025 at 2:32 PM

Keep dreaming, you are delusional if you think you will be his one and only after the divorce, if the divorce even happens. You’re a side chick, learn your place.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 4, 2025 at 4:34 PM

It's lame that he's traveling with his old family, possibly just weeks before he goes legit with you.

When my former affair partner and now husband was having second thoughts about divorcing his wife, I used a two-prong strategy. When we were together, I redoubled my sexual efforts. More blowjobs, more cum swallowed, more submissive role play, more schoolgirl uniforms. Separately, I posted a profile on a normal (non-affair) dating site and told him I was going on first dates.

The male mind is pretty simple. When a guy risks losing access to good sex, he defends his territory.

He filed papers the next week and moved in with me one week later. He won 25% time with his ex-wife's kids, but she doesn't want me in the presence of her children. That's fine by me! Our first baby was born six months into his divorce, and I'm carrying our second now.

Help your man to focus on his future with you, rather than on a dead-end with his soon-to-be-ex wife.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 4, 2025 at 4:35 PM

Yes, the above comments sum it up. When I was in my early 40's I had a year long affair with an early 20 year old chick. It was good while it lasted, but we both moved on. Even if he divorces his wife and you get together, he will have impotency issues starting in about 15 years and you will be in your prime for sex. Basically a 20 year age gap relationship will not last, so stop being in denial about anything long term with him. You won't be able to teach his kids discipline. You are closer in age to them than henis to you. They will resent you and it won't work. Don't kid yourself. And don't worry he won't be fucking his wife on the trip.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 5, 2025 at 3:56 AM

good luck. always make sure you keep him satisfied sexually, and obey him no matter what. he won't mind if you take the initiative, so long as it's to keep him happy. if you start a family with him now then you'll be happy into your 30s and 40s once he's on the little blue pill. If you want to be treated like a queen, treat him like a god.

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Indigo

by Indigo on Apr 5, 2025 at 3:57 AM

You are dreaming. Get someone your own age. He's not going to leave, he's spinning you a lie. And even if he does leave he will wear out long before you do and he's going to be conflicted for the rest of his life. He's a looser you don't want to be involved with.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 5, 2025 at 4:56 AM

Such a variety of responses but mainly supportive, so thank you, everyone.

He did stop by Friday afternoon for a blowjob to tide him over.

We'll see how things go when he gets back in a week. I am saying extra prayers and have paid for a mass to be said this week. I believe our love is meant to be!

If I'm wrong, I still have my whole life ahead of me, to meet other men.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 5, 2025 at 6:35 AM

You don’t know God if you believe He will answer prayers to bless your affair. Your moral compass is broken.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 5, 2025 at 8:47 AM

God wants us to be happy and to go forth and multiply. My affair checks both boxes.

I would consider it immoral IF my affair partner and fiancé still loved his wife, but they are basically roommates now.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Apr 5, 2025 at 8:55 AM

Keep it simple Sandra. Only continue to have sex with him, milk him for his cum and money. Don't go long term and have kids with this guy. It will only complicate things for everyone involved. His dick will stop working eventuallly when your pussy will still ache and throb for cock, then you will be the cheater like him and go find other cock to fuck. So I guess just ride this till the wheels fall off, but don't have fucking kids with this dude. It will be a dumpster fire disaster.

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