Should I ? Advice Please.

For at least the last 15 years of my 20 year marriage I’ve had a burning and growing desire to explore homosexuality. But I’ve never had a window of opportunity like this until now. My wife is visiting her sister next month to help her out after scheduled knee surgery.

I love my wife and our lovemaking but I also desire physical sexual pleasure with a man. I especially want to experience giving a blowjob and getting fucked. With every passing year the desire gets stronger and stronger.

If I did this I’d get a motel room a few towns away and post on one or two sex hookup sites. I’d try to minimize risk of std by using a condom and being with cautious married men in a similar circumstance.

I know this is morally and ethically wrong and obviously breaks our marriage vows. But I also know I will not stop having this desire. I feel such pent up need like I’m going to explode.

Serious advice would be appreciated. I know what I want to do but don’t know if it’s a good idea and I should do it.

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by Anonymous on Jun 11, 2025 at 3:50 AM

My only advice to you, and this is from personal experience, I think this through very good and make sure it’s what you want. Once you take that first cock, and taste that first cum, you’re not gonna quit. You’re gonna want it all the time. I personally think all humans are bisexual by nature.

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by Anonymous on Jun 11, 2025 at 6:03 AM

My advice is to go for it! I've been a closet bi all my life. I love sucking another man's cock and swallowing his warm cum like a slut. I have had a few close friends fuck me and enjoyed that but I'll suck a cock any time I get the chance.

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by Anonymous on Jun 11, 2025 at 6:34 AM

Do it! You're 56. If not now, then when will you try this experience that you've been curious about for so long?

Let me add that your plan to protect yourself is faulty. Nobody uses condoms for oral sex, so there's that. Suck it up, go to a community clinic for gay men, and inform yourself about effective, science-based ways to reduce STI risks.

As another commentator says, once you try cock you won't want to stop.

At the clinic, discuss "2-1-1" PrEP, which can protect you from HIV even if you don't use a condom. The 2-1-1 option lets you take the medication discreetly, 2 tablets 24 to 2 hours before sex, 1 pill a day later, and a final pill 2 days later. The medication in this case is called Truvada. It's free with any insurance, or if you are uninsured. If you want to pay out of pocket, the non-branded version is down to $1 per tablet.

Doxy-PEP, which involves taking the cheap, widely-used antibiotic doxycycline up to 72 hours after sex, drastically reduces the risk of the 3 main bacterial STIs. Again, discuss at the clinic.

In the longer term, you can discuss shoring up your vaccinations, too. People your age will not have had the Hep A, Hep B, and HPV vaccines. Your getting this last one also protects your wife from cervical cancer. This vaccine can be given to adults up to 46, but a clinician can consider giving it to you "off-label". As a hetero you will also not have had the Mpx (monkeypox) vaccine, now essential anytime you play with other men.

The main flaw in your protection strategy is relying on other married hetero men. Your group has zero knowledge in this area, because you haven't had to worry about it. Gay men are much better informed because sexual health is a routine concern for them. They're also not hiding gay sex from their wives, so sexual health is just a lot easier for them to deal with.

Inform yourself and enjoy! Also consider being honest with your wife someday. She probably has sexual fantasies of her own that she would like to explore. Give her permission to try whatever she wants, with whoever. Again, if not now, then when?

Come back and update us about your adventures!

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by Anonymous on Jun 11, 2025 at 6:40 AM

If not now, then when? You are 56! Time is running out.

But don't rely on other hetero married men to protect your sexual health. Like you, they know nothing about this, because they've never had to worry about it!

Suck it up and go to a community clinic for gay men. You'll learn about science-based prevention, including PrEP, doxy-PEP, and some important vaccines that heteros your age will not have had (Hep A, Hep B, HPV, Mpx or "Monkeypox").

Gay men are, without doubt, the safest sexual partners for you because thinking about sexual health is routine for them.

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by Anonymous on Jun 11, 2025 at 9:58 AM

I'm married to a wonderful wife who's 18 years younger than me and she's got a high libido and I enjoy the cuckold lifestyle. TBH, I'm probably on the gayer side of bisexual these days and usually please her bull as well.
I shall write my own confession another time but suffice to say my wife's boss has been her Master since long before we married and they both made it clear to me that if I wanted to be her husband I had to accept and embrace the fact that she would be my wife but first and foremost she is his slut.
She has been his willing and eager fuck toy for the last 8 years or so and she has taken a lot more of his cock than mine.
He sometimes uses her to please clients and lets them use her as a corporate whore. Some of these men are quite rough and she enjoys an alpha male using her as a c**thole.
I get very excited any time I'm around her boss since he sometimes makes nasty comments that get my dick throbbing. Things like how he loves her dirty mouth and sending her home to kiss me with his man stink on her breath.
Just writing that and hearing his husky voice in my ear is getting me hot. She often teases me about someday making me clean him and take his final load of the afternoon in my faggot mouth as she calls it.

by Anonymous on Jun 13, 2025 at 9:01 AM

SO...odd to see my life posted by someone else. However in my early years before women I had sex as a VERY young kid with others my age. The whole experimental thing...including oral. It continued right up to 16 ish. Me and my best buddy to take care of our needs because many girls would not.
During this stretch I will say 5th grade I also enjoyed by simply asking...okay a couple times....a friends dad who was single. I was extremely curious about such things and it was early 70's. Not that it mattered at the time but a whole different mindset by society overall. And that went on for about 3 yrs maybe. So I have had the experience. Having said that the whole time I knew I was straight and this was a place holder of sorts. I was going to get married and have kids and be better at marriage and raising kids than my divorced parents.
I did all that and am now early 60's. 25 yrs ago I met and married my now wife. She was conservative background. Had been a person of faith for years but the mega churches pushed her away from church not faith. BUT one great pastor she had earlier in life told her (she was mid to late 20's) that she is free do engage in whatever with her husband when she marries so long as it is between them and not outside of marriage. So lets just say that is a GREAT thing and a curse. She is willing to try whatever I want inside of marriage but no outside. And for the record one day a year into our marriage I read and article much longer than your post. I had put those memories away in my mind. I had mentioned a little of my younger life because of her quasi undecided beliefs about gay people. She for some reason didn't believe the church preaching on much of it so she questioned it.
I let her know only a bit of my youth. She asked if I asked for forgiveness. Nope I said...i didn't do a sin in my eyes so why would I. I was a kid.
Fast forward I read and article that made sense to me to determine I was bi and had been hiding it all my life even from myself. When I read it I was moved and it felt like something inside made sense like opening a window in spring. Peace. I let her know how I felt. She cried and asked if I was wanting a divorce. Nope I said. I have the best wife and I told her about all of it. Even the friends dad. Any other things. She was cool with it all. And I told her I think I am bi....who knew but it felt like an old pair of shoes fit perfectly. I have not acted on it. I have kept the vow of no physical sex. I have a gay friend whom is friends with BOTH of us equally so now he would likely not be interested but he was at one time as I am his type. He is an older guy not that it matters.
But we shared the what I would like to do to you stuff via emails and pictures etc.

The desire will never go away. And like you it increases daily. I haven't acted only because I have the most wonderful wife and it would crush her. We have even discussed before marriage and I believe she is sort of contractual in her brain (HR degrees) about what we would do if we were to cross that line or know we are going to etc. I am not sure I could say with certainty how I would handle if I were to step out and act on the urges. I am the sort of HIGH GUILT person and know it would eat me alive. She is of the belief that infidelity is a deal breaker for her. That she would lose all trust etc.

BUT MAN I CRAVE IT AS BAD AS I CRAVE FOOD if starving. It is intense at times. I remember how natural it felt. I think for me I have more confidence, even though I please her, with sex with a man.
It is more relaxed etc from my memory. Even when I was with the friends dad for years. He was more of a dad to me than my own was. I remember how reluctant at first he was but man it became really great.
Back on point. Finding another married man is the way to go. I will say though that sexual health safety is key. There is always a risk. I would use condoms for back door play for sure. But a married man will not want to be outed. A gay man might get pissed and out you to your wife. He will be able to describe your cock in detail enough to make her believe it and if he can pinpoint a date on the calender to her she can know if she was around or not and put the puzzle together.

Just decide if the risk is worth it.

My wife has pegged me and made me suck the strap on to give me the play. I so loved her for doing that. But oddly for me now I wished I hadn't as I now wonder if it made her look at her normally manly husband and not being so or less now. She says no because we did talk about that after the fact. She thought it would be fun for me.
Hey if you and your wife (is she openly kinky or even mildly interested in trying new things?) try new things say you read and article that more and more men are finding out that having the prostate messed with makes for great health and orgasms. Maybe she will peg you! You will at least role play and then from there she may confide in wanting two men and you could maybe suck him or...Some women are disgusted by such ideas and have divorced their husbands over the topic of some things and went further by telling all the friends and family. A lot at risk.

You either take the risks, get divorced before. Take the risk try it to see if it is all cracked up to be what you thought and hoped for before asking for divorce. Or live with this, buy your own toys and play alone when you are alone. Trust me my wife is fine with me doing any and all of this alone. Heck she would either peg or watch me if I wanted. But it isn't the same. No more than a dildo is the same as a cock to a woman. It is close but it doesn't interact and do the work on its own.

Good luck. Too all others sorry about being long winded. I tend to do it.

by athensgold124 on Jun 22, 2025 at 6:56 PM

for many years I have been attracted to men, women do not interest me sexually It got so bad i had to make a decision , I mean I never felt like a man i was always pretending to fit a mold well no more I am starting Estrogen therapy I have always felt like a woman I had to hide all the signs were there , the main one is my women friends are just that friends Women just dont sexually interest me As far as you wanting to explore your sexual desire to be with a man i can say for certain you are not gay or bi so if you want to experience what a man feels like I would first set the mood in the privacy of your home it will require a dildo of your size of choice dont laugh now in a comfotable position close your eyes and gently move your haand over your body pich your nipples and picture a mans hand carressing you with a well lubed dildoe i would use astroglide gently very slowly insert in your rectom not deep just the tip when you feel comfortable slide more in depending on the length and girth it will be uncomfortable when you have taken as much as you care to keep your eyes closed a thrust in and out gently keep thinking about the man you have chosen imagine his hands all over your body in about 10 minutes you should orgasm . i know his may not sound the same as being with a man but it could save you in the long run , good luck Hun ,

by Anonymous on Jul 27, 2025 at 10:08 AM

Do it now or you will egret not trying it. I had a chance 1 time when i was in Vegas for a conference. I posted some nude photos on a gay hook up site and got a few response from guys wanting to fuck me. I did not take the opportunity and have regretted it ever since. All i do now id fantasies about it and have been trying to hook up with someone ever since. Hard to find someone who will host and be discreet. I should have remembered what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas because i would not still be an anal virgin.

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