Silence Is Golden

He just came home after a night out. I was watching something on my phone, having the night I wanted to have. Since he moved in a year and a half ago. I treasure the alone time I have because it is so rare. And on those occasions I do get time home alone, I am always disappointed to hear the door open. Anyway, whenever he comes in, I am supposed to stop whatever I am doing and give him my full attention. I do want to greet him, but I also want to go back to the thing I have chosen to do with me and for me, not sit and wait and see if he is even going to talk about his night out. And while I wait, he rubs my arm with his thumb until I am afraid he is going to rub the skin off. If I start to pull away or tense up, he rubs harder. There is a lot I am unhappy about in this relationship, and if I were him, I would be hurt to know my partner would prefer to continue watching tv when I walk in. I suppose my irritation is a symptom of my unhappiness. The question is, is it also a sign that it is over?