Not Bad Enough To Leave. Not Good Enough To Stay For.

My marriage is very stale so I've been having affair with my daughter's friend.

The sex is off the charts but surprisingly she is also romantic. I love cuddling her. She grew up without a father and has always liked older men.

It's getting to the point where I will leave my wife to be with this girl. I just don't see any other way. She has changed my life so much, reawakened parts of me that I thought I'd lost.

A few questions I need help with...

1. Is it bad that she is 19 and I am 43?

2. How do I tell my wife without hurting her feelings?

3. How do I tell my daughter without upsetting her.

The only hard thing so far has been the need to hide this affair from my wife and my daughter. The affair has made me so happy that I want to tell my best friend, my wife. Shouldn't she be happy for me too?

Comments

underhi

by underhi on Sep 10, 2025 at 9:29 PM

1. Yes it is.
2. You already hurt her feelings the moment you cheated on her
3. You already have, it's just a matter of time until both find out.

There is no chance you will still be married once they find out.

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Seagull57

by Seagull57 on Sep 11, 2025 at 5:30 AM

Delbuck,

1- It's not illegal, but it will be difficult to maintain a lasting relationship. Do the math. You'll be a drooling 83 years old and she will only be 59.
2- There is no way to spare your wife's feelings. She may recognize that things have become a little stale, but she trusts you. Once you tell her of your affair, she will be devastated.
3- Once again, there is little to no way to tell your daughter without hurting her. Especially since it is with one of her friends!
You are looking at mine Mike's of bad road! Best of luck!

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 11, 2025 at 9:42 AM

As a 23 year old girl who slept with 3 friends fathers, I can tell you what I got out of all 3 affairs.

1- a used car
2- school books
3- security deposit on an apartment which eventually became a party hang out

She’s using you.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 12, 2025 at 12:28 AM

get her pregnant first. that way she can't escape.

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