My Wife Played A Game Of Truth Or Dare When I Was In A Business Trip

Not sure what I'm looking for here. Perhaps some advice. Because I am angry and embarrassed and shocked at what I was told. I didn't think she was capable of this and I'm totally blindsided by it.

It has recently come to my attention that while I was away for the weekend, my wife engaged in a alcohol induced game of truth or dare with some mutual friends and it got highly inappropriate in terms of sexual scenarios.

She went over to her friends house, which she does from time to time to drink wine and hangout. It consisted of her, another woman, and 3 other couples including the homeowners( 3 males, 5 females total). They're all fairly good friends of ours. This was on a Friday night. It was a planned thing that I missed because it was a weekend of a work trip. I returned home on Sunday afternoon, and all seemed normal to me, nothing out of the ordinary. It was later that week when she left her phone out as she was texting someone. I glanced at her phone and the words Friday night caught my attention so I snooped a bit. It didn't say anything specific, but it alluded to "crazy" things that happened and I would kill her if I knew.

This led me to call my friend (one of the husbands) and question him. He was hesitant to say anything and told me I should talk to her. I was angry and told him to meet me and eventually he gave in.

So, after talking with him, and swearing to never divulge it was him, he told me.the following things happened.

1. She was noticeably drunk and told numerous "truths" about her sexual experiences, most that she's never told me.

2. Some of her "dares" included kissing another female, showing her tits, pulling her pants down and exposing her thong and letting them smack her ass, giving lap dances, along with watching sexual acts of the other couples, and the men flashing their cocks.

When I asked of that was all, he couldn't answer me. He said I really should talk to her. When he left, she was still there, on the couch, looking "extra friendly" with another couple. He swore he had no idea what happened after he left.

I am heartbroken and pissed that she would betray me like that, and I'm seriously afraid that she did more than that.

I haven't confronted her yet because Im not thinking clearly, and we have kids, and I feel like anything is possible at this point including divorce if she admits to this and if she god forbid cheated on me. I don't know what I should do.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 14, 2025 at 10:51 PM

You should confront her. Tell her you know some of the things that happened at that Friday party. Tell her to tell you everything and you want all details.. 1 of 2 things will happen. She will tell yiu everything and how you react will dictate whats next. You might get aroused by it and she notices and you both have sex as it was a one time bad judgement and i bet she begs forgiveness. Or you get so upset yiu want to divorce her. The kids will be a huge part of what decision you do. I have seen where it turned another couple on and that husband and wife had hot sex talking dirty abiut what happened after that. That couple then had an agreenent only 1 hall pass a month, but his wife had to come home showing and telling evety detail. It was a turn on for them. It actually enhanced thier sex life. If that happened with you two, you could make her tell you what she did and all the dirty details. . You will know if you get hard hearing her dirty deeds. Or she gets upset crying asking forgiveness and it never happen again but it will take time to build trust. Its alot to think about but its all up to you

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 15, 2025 at 3:56 AM

Jealousy is not a good look. So what, she had a few too many. If my wife had done that I wouldn’t make too much of it. As long as she is still living her life with me, who cares about crap like this. Her sleeping with another guy occasionally keeps sex from being boring. I actually like it when she calls me by another guy’s name accidentally while we are making love. It’s cute that she she’s thinking about another guy’s cock.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 15, 2025 at 5:37 AM

She’s for the streets it’s a meter of time before what happened that night pokes its ugly head. The other husband will try and want more watch about unfolds especially if they are still talking about it. Probably had her first 3some and it was with out you. Be a man and do something

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 15, 2025 at 5:52 AM

I think you already know what happened, and I think you know it’s not the first time. Talk to her find out what she’s missing from you that she feels she has to get from someone else.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 15, 2025 at 7:40 AM

I'm surprised by the comments basically saying I should deal with it or enjoy it somehow. That's not our relationship. We've never talked about any of this stuff. I'm not just foong ro be ok with her fucking around with other guys. Would I think it's hit to see her make-up with another girl? Yes absolutely but I didnt get the chance.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 15, 2025 at 12:09 PM

Dondon, ultimately, the above commenters are correct. You need to talk to your wife. Drop your kids off at your parents and sit your wife down for a conversation. Do not jump to conclusions. Tell her that you've heard bits and pieces of what went on, but you need to hear the complete truth from her.
Pay close attention to how she reacts. Does she act upset, like she has been caught or is she defensive? Asking who told you, etc. Was it just a bit of drunken foolishness that she is ashamed of or did she actually betray your trust. Only one way to find out. Best of luck!
Seagull

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 16, 2025 at 5:15 AM

I believe the above, but would like to add… the thing is all these things. It sounds like you can’t be like the other couples in the room who took part in the truth and dare… maybe there is something missing barrier and communications desire what you both want out of a relationship… something’s happen and they are meant to cause both sides to think not just one… quite often when you are in a couple situation you surrender so much of yourself that you forget he really are.. you become submissive to what you believe life your partner your children expect of you and forget to chase the fun and the excitement… so she did it for one night the next night should be with you doing the same thing, remembering the spice and excitement that once brought you together…. Don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater…. But also don’t put yourself out to be abused. … good luck in your next chapter.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 18, 2025 at 8:27 AM

She fucked that other couple, come on, you know that. Kissing women showing her tits off to the entire group.
If she did that in front of everyone, you know when alone with that other couple she at the very least was licked and licked, and i would bet she helped the hubby fulfill his double blowjob fantasy. After that sitting on his dick was highly likely. I share this as a guilty participate. My wife and I had many successful 3 somes with her married friends. Formula - wine, flirting, flattering, then a game. It might sound silly. Spin the bottle along with truth or dare are two winners.

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Derwood_lolly

by Derwood_lolly on Sep 24, 2025 at 11:47 PM

So what is the outcome? What has happened?

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