I am 27, I have never been in any type of problems before, but, two years ago I got a raise at work and there was a co-worker that constantly picked on me by throwing remarks that later leaded to threats towards me. I wrote letters and notified my supervisor and this only made things worst. One day my daughter (5) at the time was with me late in the office, and out of nowhere the co-worker appeared, she was so angry she threatened to "break my neck and burst my head". She said these things in the presence of my daughter, I took my daughter and we left immediately, I never brought her back there with me again EVER. I have a pending situation with my job now.

A year ago I got into a real bad choice relationship with a guy. He became obsessive, I never invited him to my place but one night He came uninvited (I live below my mother). He tried to spite me by telling my mother horrible things and lies about me, he and I ended up in a big argument and I took him to court for my safety. Sadly, my daughter witnesses this.

Becuase of all the things that are going in my life now, I am now annoyed fast and depress and my relationship with my mother and sister is now sour. She is younger than me and we now can't stand each other, we get at it and sadly, my daughter witnesses it.
I am planning to MOVE.

Now recently, a close family member is being physically abused by her husband. Tonight she came by me to talk and her husband followed and confronted her outside my home. They almost got into a huge fight, even when I threatened to call the police he did not leave, eventually he left but after he called me some seriously offensive names. I accompanied this family member to the police to file a report. Sadly, you guessed it happened so fast, she witnessed it.

I feel like such a horrible mother, where did all these issues and violence come from?? My daughter is now (7) I am upset and in tears at this moment because I wish she was not exposed to these things. I want to move from here as soon as possible, but is my baby girl already damaged, why why why :( I am losing sleep, it hurts to much. I want to just die.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 11, 2004 at 7:45 AM

It sounds to me like YOU haven't exposed your child to violence, but she HAS been exposed. You just need to sit and talk to her about what is going on around her. Tell the truth; kids are smart and will know if you aren't being honest. Then tell her that you will always try to be there to protect her. Then, if you really plan on doing it, move. Until then, tell your relatives and friends to stay away from your home with these problems because you really don't want your child exposed to it.

Just love your kid. That means more to them than anything.

Good Luck

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 11, 2004 at 10:46 AM

You aren't always going to be able to protect your child from violence. Some things are just out of your hands, which to me it sounds like these situations have been. You have tried your best to keep your daughter from seeing this, you love your daughter with all your heart, and these are the only things that matter. Like the first poster said, talk with your daughter and move. Get a fresh start away from the violence. You have done the best you can with what you've had to keep your daughter safe in the circumstances you've been given, but now you can actively change those circumstances and see to it that you control the safety of your child and yourself.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 11, 2004 at 9:45 PM

At age 6 I enrolled my daughter in a martial arts class. At first she loved it; then she hated it; then she liked it; then she liked it more for the exercise. Bottom line, she is now 16; 2nd degree black belt and not afraid of the dark nor intimadated by any male and nor especially any female BS. So..... stop looking back and learn; hunt down the closest martial arts school that specializes in working with kids; its not too late to give your kid a tool that will change her life.

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by Anonymous on Oct 12, 2004 at 10:13 AM

Sounds like you're a crack whore and your daughter is going to grow up to be one too. It is sad but don't try to blame all your problems on someone else. Sure, you're little Miss innocent and it's just the people around you who are bad people and expose your daughter to violence. Face it, you're a slut and your daughter will be one too.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 12, 2004 at 6:49 PM

My, how holier than thou we are! Are you Jesus Christ?, because as far as I know, He's the only person who ever walked this earth that was perfect. I never knew Jesus Christ had a computer and was such a bitter prick too!

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Oct 21, 2004 at 7:37 PM

You seem to have some issues with "crack whores" did you date couple of them? or were you raised by one? ooh oh perhaps you are one?

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