I've been with J for 8 years, and known B for 2 (online only until VERY recently) B and I were just friends online, but one day, we just started talking.... and it got kinda dirty. We spent more and more time talking, and have even had a few mutual masturbation sessions via webcam... I took my 2 year old son to go visit him (he lives 500 miles away) and the trip was awesome. J came down after a week (all the time he could get from work) and it was all good. J and I decided that we were going to have an 'open' relationship, and so I had sex with B 3x with his blessing. There are 2 problems here... 1, B has a GF (live in) and 2, I'm in love with B now. I knew I loved him before, but since I left to come home, he's the only thing I can think about, and I'm miserable. I knew B had a GF, but I didn't care.... not realizing they were on the verge of engagement. Now I'm feeling a little guilty about her, guiltier about keeping my feelings for B from J, but most of all because I would leave J, my son, my house, my life to be with B.... and I have no idea if he feels anywhere close to the same way.