There is a girl I have known for years now, mostly through the internet however we live close by each other, go to the same church etc. I seriously love this girl. With every ounce of being in me I do. The problem is that she is 18 and I am 22; our families know each other and we have a great deal of common acquaintances and she has a boyfriend right now. Maybe it is just me but this seems like it is a disaster waiting to happen if I make any sort of strong move. However she wants to come and visit my school sometime (she is a freshman and I am a senior) and stay over, party etc.

I really just don't know what to do about this situation. Should I invite her to stay over at my place? find her another place to stay? or what? If I try and hook up with this girl I will be the bad guy for making her cheat on her boyfriend and ruin any further relationship...if I don't and she stays with him I will never know what could have been. I just wish I knew where she stands with him and where I stand with her. I wish there was some rulebook to these scenario's.