I have a boyfriend who is lovely, he is kind, unprejudiced and interesting and we are great friends. But I don't really fancy him and long term I don't think I want to be with him. But I really care about him, I would never want to hurt him.

A week ago I met a man who I just can't forget about, our values, ideas of living, music, humour, everything is in sync. He lives in a van, is an artist and it felt like a true "coming home". We speak different languages but used what little we have of ieach others language to communicate all night long. I feel as if I've known him before. Nothing happened but I cannot get him out of my head. He tracked down my email address and got in contact - on the same day that I did the same.

I would have no real reason to leave my current boyfriend, we are OK, just drifting along. But with this other man I really felt we were the same. Oh how bad the timing is! I won't cheat on my boyfriend, it is not fair but I feel as though I already have because my heart wants to be with this other man.

I will have to end this current relationship. Even if the other guy is not available or still wants to know me I know that how I felt about him is so much stronger than I have ever or could ever feel for my current man. I feel bad that my boyfriend will be hurt as he is a good and kind man and we are friends. But I cannot pretend. So I will leave because we are not right together, not for another man, and if this guy, who I really feel close to, is still around...I can only hope.