Not sure if it fits here. But I discovered that meany people have more than one lover, with everyones consent, called Polyamory. Its about multiple long term relationship - not (just) sex. Id love to live like this, tried to get my wife interested. She occasionally flirts, but never anything more. THen, by surprise, I met a woman who is available, has feelings for me, and we became really good friends. My wife knew about her, and I was honest about my feelings, and I asked permission for a relationship with this woman. Not only did my wife say no, but she wants to divorce me now. I thought id done better than all those people who cheat.
I feel Im being punished now as if I had cheated - I did not. How sad monogamy is shoved down our throats like its the only way to live your life.