It's not a question of have I cheated on my husband, the answer is yes. The question should be, why have I gone outside of our marriage vows and sought sex with another man. It's not a complicated answer either and one my husband should have listened to, just as many men should do.
It was and is quite ok for him to want me to perform oral sex on him, fellatio. But he says he no longer can be bothered to perform cunnilingus on me. As for fore play it's almost none existant, and something that most women love with their respective husbands and partners. His complete refusal (I am a very clean person in every sense of personal hygiene) is purely selfish from his point of view and he point blank refuses to discuss it, or seek any outside help.
We've only been married for eighteen months and it wasn't long after we got married his whole attitude changed to fore play and oral sex in particular. I was completely at a loss at first and questioned myself. I even went so far as to see a doctor to have my vagina checked out for any abnormalities, with the outcome I was totally fine.
Then in February I was at one of my fitness classes (I teach, nutritional, physical and whole body development) where I met a guy called Gerry, who is eleven years older than me. We got on like a house on fire and I soon found we liked similar things and had lots of interests in common. Being honest in a round about way, I knew he fancied me.
After an argument with my husband one morning over sex again, still fresh in my mind. I met Gerry at the gym and we decided after my courses were finished, to go for lunch. Gerry's apartment is only a couple of streets away from the gym, so we ended up at his place after he suggested we have lunch there.
It didn't take too much flirting to realise we both wanted sex and for the next couple of hours I found out what I'd been missing for the past eighteen months. Gerry took his time to pleasure me, just as I did him, with the eventual outcome, I took Gerry's cock deep inside me after he'd had me orgasming with his mouth and tongue, licking and sucking my love bud to orgasm.
The sex we had wasn't like a competition or a selfish, "It's what I can get out of this, just for me". It was as sex and making love to someone should be. Passionate, loving and overall meeting each others needs and wants. Even taking a shower with Gerry before I left, was everything my husband should be considering with me, but never wants to. Taking Gerry's rigid cock up my arse in the shower was delightful and erotically sensuous. The orgasm Gerry gave me from his long slow strokes up my arsehole, was by far the most sexually gratifying feeling I'd had in over a year and a half.
Visiting Gerry's apartment has become a frequent joy. Each time we meet I find our love making becoming ever more sensuos and emotionally fulfilling. Even so I do miss the closeness with my husband and have tried even now to re kindle his affection, in all aspects of our relationship. So the answer is there for him. He like me, just needs to want it badly enough.