Co worker of my wife told her of her guilt feeling. She was married and had been for years. Her husband was missionary and was taking her and children out of the US. She wanted to make sure her heart was right before leaving. Guilt is killing her and she fears telling her husband. Wife tells her that I might be able to help her. That was not an option. First of all fear of this getting out, second fear of embarrassment to her and her family.

Wife tells her of my past and my security clearance. She decided to tell my wife and she would tell me, from there I could guide her to actions or not for closure.
This is not a made up story, its fact. I post this to share and possibly helping some female who may have had this same issue.

Her father is a minister and has had sex with her. he started putting her to bed and eventually falling to sleep wit her. The mother thinks nothing of this, he usually wakes up and comes to bed with her later that night or morning. She said by 12 he had started kissing her more like a boyfriend and stared rubbing her.

Told the massage of her breast to make them grow and be even. eventually with her top off and included sucking the nipples. Inspecting her pubic hair and touching. He would masturbate her and eventually her penetrated her.

She told this was done with love and he and she were close. He still made love to his wife, Mom told later was every Monday and every Thursday night, Saturday morning, period pregnant it did not matter. No other times ever.

He placed her on birth control after her first period. Told it was to regulate her periods and stop bleeding. She did not have periods and never took her skip pills, going right into the next pack of pills.

Every night she gets ready for bed and he comes in. He fake sleeps till his wife goes to bed. (I questioned if the wife ever knew, told she had NO idea). She tells her wakes her and starts kissing like most making love and enters her. She is never ask or forced to preform oral sex on him, just take him vaginally. This happens almost every night for years.

She enters collage and her moves the family. She will be at home while she attends collage. Again he keep having sex with her. She has a younger sister and he never tries anything with her.

He encourages her to find a BF, later to get married. he works hard to get a home for them close by. he stops by and has sex while her husband is working. Takes measures to prevent getting her pregnant. She and her husband are trying since marriage. No pills.

This is the part she needed help with. She had guilt feelings because she enjoyed this. She told sex with her dad was so enjoyable she looked forward to it. Her husband was a good lover, just not as satisfactory.

On a visit to her mom and dad, she told him this is the last time. Once he finished she got upset. She told him its upsetting to stop. She enjoys this and feels like she is loosing a lover and her dad all in one. he tried some back porch psychology to calm her. Told he should have stopped long ago. had he allowed her husband to be the only one, she would have adapted for her husband. Was his fault,

She wanted to know if she must ell her husband and see if he would label her as a pervert. Was it her fault?? she had cheated on her husband with her dad, did she lead him on??

I told her the mind control by her dad was the problem. She was not guilty and the fact he used the sex as a connection to love, was the problem. Like many molested girls, that associate giving sex as giving live. getting sex from a man means he loves her. So the act was a tool used to make her desire satisfaction. Same for the taking as wanting to satisfy. The fact she enjoyed the sex was only physical. Backed by the positive reward for the act and love. Her best situation was to never say a word and take this to her grave.

Only bad could come from this. from her husband feeling his wife was used material. Chances of him ever trusting her around her dad. The dad never being trusted around his grand children. by this time her father was not sexually active with her mom.

I suggested she seek professional counseling and hops of working out the guilt she feels.
Had she told this when her father and she were younger, I would have suggested filing charges. She automatically rejected ever prosecuting her dad.

That was 17 years back and her father died few years after she told me. Her husband and her mom were never told.