I could make this a long drawn out story but I will keep this short and sweet. I need honest opinions and some help. I believe my "straight" boyfriend is addicted to GRINDR, gay porn and cocaine. He watches gay and tranny porn at least 4-6 hours a day. There are empty baggies of coke every where in different places every time i sleep over; and rolled up bills, like he doesnt even clean up after???????? THEN I found out through a gay friend of mine (whom my boyfriend doesnt know) that my boyfriend is on the app grindr and has previously met up with a man for a quick blowjob exchange while i was out of town. He is now looking to experiment a little further as in top or bottom and do this bareback. In my mind I am trying to be sympathetic to his knew found bi-sexuality; because this is something he will NEVER tell anyone. I think he might lash out at me for finding out and try to lie to my face even though i seen the conversation and the pictures he exchanged with my gay friend. I also want him to know i am here for support should he decide to get help for his addictions; because he doesn't talk to anyone about anything; nor does he have any established relationships like that with people. I am hurt and confused and upset yes of course but the bottom line is he cheated and was willing to go bareback with his latest partner puts my health at risk. Its only a matter of time before he goes and gets what he's looking for... I dont care if he's buy or gay, im just hurt that he had to lie hide and cheat on me - but at the same time I am empathetic as to why he did. I am not willing to stay in a relationship with him after we talk about it, as the trust is gone and that is something that i dont think can be regained. I do love him dearly but i feel like this deep secret of his is killing him slowly and it hurts me to see that. Any suggestions how to bring this up???????? approach???????? any experiences to share???????? what shouldn't i say????????