I'm a very plain looking guy, no muscles to speak of, and "built like a bean pole", and just plain looking in the face too, and not even hairy--at 34 you'd think I'd have more body hair than I did at 15, but no. Thing is though girls love to hang around me and be with me. I don't think I do anything miraculous, I just listen to what they wanna tell me, and my stupid sense of humor seem to make us laugh.

I'm not the kind of guy that is always on the make, and I tend to just talk to people when I meet them. More often than not, a girl I'm talking to will slip me her number somehow and tell me to call. When I do, then we just talk on the phone, like we did in person, and we usually end up going out. Again, nothing spectacular, that's just not me, but we go to a diner or maybe roadside burger and we just talk--I'm not hitting on her all the time either, we just talk and laugh some. Then I take her home and thank her for a great evening. That's it for the first date.

I do things like open the door for her, pay for the meal, pick her up and actually go up to her door and escort her to the car, then open the car door for her. This is the strange part--a lot of the time, she'll all but drag me inside and she is trying to get into my pants! I mean she wants to get with me sexually.

The second date and on, I usually bring her a small "classic gift". You know a flower, small box of candy, or something she mentioned that she likes from the first date. I am not there to get into her pants, I just really enjoy people, and I enjoy the role of being the guy--even the nice guy, I always have been.

My male friends always want to know how I know all these girls, I just tell them they are friends, because they really are. We are friends. Some of the friendships have sexual benefits, but that is up to the girl if it is something that she wants. I'm not there trying to get in her pants. If she wants sex with me, then ya, we have a sexual relationship too, but we still are friends first.

Some day I want to get married and have a family, but for right now, I don't feel that I am ready and I think that is just fine with a lot of my friends that are girls. I don't lead any of them on, they all know I am not looking for a living arrangement or marriage, and I am happy to just be a friend, and many have no sexual aspect to our friendship.

I never have a problem having as much or more sex than I want though, and I'm not talking wanking either.