Four years ago, when I was finishing my Phd in Biology, I was invited to a conference in Nairobi. It was my first trip to Africa. At the conference I met a woman, and we got along fine. I was still jet lagged, and she hit on me and I was a bit tipsy from one too many drinks, and her hand on my thigh and then her arm around my shoulder and she asked me to got with her to her room. In her room she was fast and she had her face between my legs before I had even taken off my pants and it went on from there. She knew what she was doing and knew that I had never been with another woman and she spent a lot of time showing me and telling me what I should like. I woke up naked in bed with her the next morning.

She was at the conference representing a company that sold software. That didn't matter, she chased me and kept me with her and took me to her room the next night, only this time she asked me to undress myself and she undressed in the full lights of the room and she had me stand beside her totally naked in front of the mirror so we could compare our two bodies. After a few minutes she dropped to her knees and put her face up into me and I felt her tongue poke in between my lips as she pushed me backwards on to the bed to give me complete head. She had me reciprocate, something I had not done the night before and she lay there telling me what to do with my mouth and tongue on her until I felt the need to go down on her.

We stayed over after the conference and went on a two day safari to a game reserve. The tents had single beds, but that did not keep us from sleeping together or getting together.

We each went back to our lives, I finished my program and took a job with a pharmaceutical company and she is still in sales living in Boston. I went back to a man and I got married and I have two toddlers. But I think about that trip a whole lot and I stay in touch with her, we talk on the phone, but mostly e-mail and facebook, and I share pictures of my kids with her and she shares what she is doing with me. She is not in a relationship, and she lets me know that she is there for me when I am ready.