yes here is your advice. Get a divorce if you dont want your husband anymore. Otherwise, work on your marriage and get away from the married man. Think about his wife as well....
agree with #1. you are turning your friend into what you despise in your husband. there is always a price to pay.
i have a friend whos wife just cheated on him and he is devistated. he is a good man and gave he everything she wanted.
your actions affect others...
besides you said your husband chatted with some girl at work, not fucked her. so why are you wanting to just go out and fuck some other guy???
theres no harm in just chatting with someone. instead of emotionally cheating on your husband, which is what you are already doing, talk to him, tell him it bothers you and set some limits.
christ, doesnt anybody communicate anymore? why does everyone think the answer is always to go fuck someone else??? love the person who is providing you a home and a family, they deserve it.
Stop it right there with the guy at work and follow the great advise given above in comments 1, 2 and 3. If you still won't end it then think of the worst that can happen; you know like you lose everything you've worked for you whole life: home, family, bank accounts, children (if any) friends, your job, etc. Now add to this the idea that you are the: other woman, home wrecker, skank, whore, slut, bitch, c**t, who destroyed an innocent woman's life by jut by fucking her husband. And oh by the way he looses his job too when word gets out. Now understand people sometime go off the deep end when this stuff happens. People become wacked out of their minds with hate, anger, frustration, disbelief, depression, etc. and end up homicidal and/or suicidal over it. People end up killing themselves or others. I've seen it happen when I worked with the courts and the justice system. Honey, wise up and do the right thing and talk to your husband and stay away from the guy at work. This is something that needs to be resolved between spouses and not between you and anyone outside your marriage other than specifically trained marriage counselors who are professionals at this sort of thing.
Infidelity is very common, and many couples have affairs. The first 3 posters sound like self-righteous misogynists.
Do what feels right. If you are both married, then perhaps you are meant to be together, or it may be just a little tryst that is needed to get you to realize that you would rather stick it out with your current partner. Besides, he may not be willing to leave his wife, and I'm sure he's more than motivated to keep things on the down low.
Just be smart about it, nothing at work, not even kisses on the sly, you will likely get caught when you think no one is around or looking. Most places of work have cameras all over.