Looking To Making Her Officially No. Two Wife

I have been married 28 years. Three years ago my husband started a sexual relationship with a 25 year old woman from his work. He is not directly her supervisor but that's a technicality as he is the CFO. I went to a counselor and the issue really boils down to am I better off accepting her or divorced.

Divorce is always a long term disaster for the wife, so I have put up with her, decided to accept her. I hated that when I talk with her I like her. I have accepted that too, we talk an hour at a time, several times a week. During COVID we are taking Vietnamese cooking lessons together at my house, the lessons are on Zoom. She has spent the night many times, she basically has her own room. Now that we are stuck at home she is my main human contact other than my husband. She has been here for ten days, except for Sunday when we went to her apartment to get some non work clothes for her.

I know he needs her and she needs him so his escape to her room is not a surprise. If I get to vote she should just give up her apartment and we drop all pretensions, face it she is his younger wife and separate living is bad for everyone. My kids are now adults, empty nesting is not for me, and I have finally met the woman friend I have always wanted. We are testing the waters but as far as I am concerned she is the wife for me.