I have a similar problem to all of the aforementioned situations. A year and a half ago I quit my job as a probation officer to stay at home. Shortly before I had quit I had met a woman (HL) at the pool who had a daughter the same age as my daughter, and as luck would have it she was also a stay at home mom. I befriended this woman and her next door neighbor (KA) who has a son also my daughter's age. I begain to hang around these women and attend their neighborhood get togethers. We would watch each other's children and go shopping together. I taught these women some crafts that I make and so on. You get the picture. One day HL came to me and said that my daughter was at her house and said my mom sticks her hand down her pants and eats it. Initially I was going laugh because it was so outlandish but saw the seriousness on HL's face and said "I wonder if anyone has hurt her?". I then went home and asked my daughter about the comment and she reminded me we were at Wal-Mart earlier in the week and she had gotten some feces on her hands and I explained and made a gesture to "down there" and that we don't put our hands down there and then made a gesture towards my mouth and said because we don't want it to get in our mouths and that it is full of germs and is YUCKY. From this my daughter assumed that I did that and proceeded to tell the neighbor this. I went down and told HL the information that my daughter had given me. About a week later I got a letter from Social Services saying that I was being investigated for molesting my daughter. A social worker came out and said that there were three allegations. The first was that I told HL that my daughter had been molested by a teacher. My daughter has never been to school and nor did I say that. Secondly, HL reported that my daughter said that she could not ride a bike because her privates hurt and that I had told HL that my daughter's privates were "SPLIT" and that her husband and KA's husband molested her. Again my daughter had said that and her privates were hurt. She had worn a life jacket all day that had a strap that went through her legs. Apparently the jacket was too lose and was riding up while she was in the water causing the strap to chaif her. I had called my doctor and he advised to put vasaline on it and have her sit on the toliet backwards to prevent any urine from getting on the irritation for a period of time. I never went and accused their husbands of doing anything to my daughter. If I thought that I would have called law enforcement and I would not have allowed her to spend the night at their house after this alleged incident. The third allegation was me sticking my hands down my pants and having my daughter watch. The Social Worker talked with my daughter and came down the stairs and asked me what I did to these women to make them hate me so bad. I was so shocked I could not believe these were my friends that did this.

HL sent me a nasty letter saying that I was turning it all around on me and taking the focus off of my daughter. I told her that the allegations were unfounded and unsubstantated and she told me to refrain from coping text from my PROBATION OFFICER manual. She continued to say that I did the things that she reported I did. I eventually stopped emailing her back and tried to seperate myself from the situation. However, my daughter was begging to see her friends and she constantly was crying about not getting to play with them. I found her new friends and made extra efforts to get her new friends and play dates.

One day the two moms HL and KA told me to come to their house and they would talk to me. I went down there stupidly trying to work on this so my daughter did not have to lose these friends. When I got down there they told me I was a negligant mother and that I was to blame for all of this. They said they could not believe that I don't care about my daughter or what has happenend to her. When I repeatedly said nothing has happened they continued to say that they know it has. I finally stood up and said you can't fix stupid and left. They sent text messages and called my house repeatedly and I blocked their numbers and emails from reaching me. Since that time they have gone around the neighborhood and held parties where people have come and told me that they are telling everyone I am an unregistered sex offender and my daughter has been molested. I have been behind them when they have said this while at the school. I am the PTO president and a cub scout den leader. I have many people who are my friends but the people who don't know me are believing this crap. My daughter is now in kindergarten and she went to school and made a friend and it is the little girl of one of the ladies I overheard talking about me. I can't let my daughter go over there and play and she won't let her chilld over to my house. For a year and a half this has been going on and I have been unable to move forward. I went to go see a therapist on Monday and her advice was to move. We financially cannot really afford that right now. She said I needed to get my kids out of the school too. My children love their school and have tons of friends in the school. I am not sure this is the way to go. I agree this has devistated me and hurt me beyond belief but isn't there anything else I can do? HELP!!