Old But Horny

I put bi even if all I ever had sex with is women because I'm open to trying oral with a man. Or do they say bi curious? Like lots of men on these sites I have a higher sex drive than my wife. She's several years my junior but she's got to the point of not being all that sexual anymore. She is a doll and will always let me have her pussy or blow me but it's not the same fun as when she used to get really into it, even doing some discrete swinging years ago.
Anyway, my confession is I have been watching gay and bi porn and am totally lusting to try playing with a horny man in the same situation as me. Older married or widowed man who appreciates a good nasty blowjob. Seeing porn of gay daddy being dominated by a chub or fat belly grey haired man is very exciting. His lying back on the divan with his pants down around his ankles, his big hairy ball sack hanging down waiting to be licked and sucked, and his short fat cut dick swelling and drooling clear nectar on my tongue. I don't know if I would do it but I think it would be very exciting to take the dick and even to lift his legs and lick behind his nuts. Seen some gay assholes that look like wrecked pussy and I loved to eat pussy.
Don't know where to meet up with men in the same place and would like to be discrete. Not looking to place an online ad or anything. Anyone in the same situation have advice or experience? Can you meet somebody somewhere public like a cafe or a car parts place or something? I wouldn't even know where to go to find a gay bar, and really don't want to have a gay hookup, just a fellow like me who needs some relief. If he was up for returning the favor it would be great.
Help wanted, I guess some one will put funny answers here but please comment with true good advice my comrades in horniness.