Desiring Cock As I Get Older!

I am a married male in his late 50's. I was raised in a
normal family during the 1970's. My dad, however was a true product of his upbringing. He worked a blue collar job and had certain ideas on how we should act. Keep your hair short, no ponytails or earrings; no interracial girlfriends and absolutely no "gay stuff". This wasn't an issue until my 40's, as online porn became available and I began to get curious about sucking another man's cock. I began searching a well known swingers hookup site hoping to get lucky.
After a lot of trepidation, I agreed to meet an older man (twinks just don't do it for me) at a roadside hourly motel near where I work.
I was nervous, as it was my first time, my hookup knew this from our messaging. He suggested we get naked and relax. Once our clothes were off and we were lying on the bed, he got to his knees, kissed my nipples and worked his way down to my hard cock. Being honest, I cannot claim to have a giant cock, unlike some submitters on here. My cock is an average size and my new friend didn't seem to mind. My first blowjob by another male felt glorious and it wasn't long before I felt my orgasm building. To stop from cumming too soon, I stopped him, saying "your turn". He laid down and I brought my face close to his manhood. His cock, similar in size to my own, was inches from my lips. I said to myself "this is what you wanted", and I lowered my head and kissed the head of his dick. This was followed by a lick and then I took him into my mouth. I slowly bobbed my head for a while then I increased the pace as he began breathing heavily and complimenting me. Wanting to please as best I could; I slowly started massaging his balls. He told me how great it felt so I allowed my hand to slip between his ass cheeks and I began fingering his asshole. After, a few minutes of moaning and more compliments he asked if I wanted to fuck him. I wasn't sure if things would get this far, but I had brought condoms, just in case. From my fingering, I knew that his hole was tight, so I lubed my cock and his ass and began slowly easing my finger in and out, finger fucking him. I tried to take it slow, but I was out of my mind with anticipation. He eventually said he was ready and I began trying to slide my cock in. It took a few attempts, but I finally slid padt his sphincter. God it was tight and felt amazing! I knew that I should go slow as his ass was so tight, but I was in heaven. Sadly, my hookup didn't feel the same. He said that the pain was too much and asked me to stop. So, I sadly slid my cock out of his ass. Truth be told I probably wouldn't have lasted too much longer.
After removing the condom, he immediately returned to sucking my dick and after a few minutes I was ready. I groaned that "I'm doing to cum". His reply was simple "that's the point"! A few moments later I was overcome by a massive orgasm. The kind of orgasm that made me see stars!
When I recovered, I told him to lie back and immediately went back to sucking him. I was intent on making him come! A few minutes went by, maybe ten, when out of nowhere, he sat up, told me to stop and began furiously jerking his cock. I was momentarily concerned that I was doing a shitty job sucking him; when all of a sudden he grunted a shot cum all over his stomach and cock and balls!
He caught his breath and suggested that we get cleaned up. Soon after we dressed.
I was a little disappointed, as I had convinced myself that I was going to swallow my first load of cum, but it wasn't to be.
So, there is my one and only bi sex story. I have a questions, though. Have others men found themselves attracted to and seeking cock as they've gotten older? Where do you find like minded men? I'd like to play again, but I have to be very careful, as I cannot be caught. That is not something that I'd like to explain to my wife. Any assistance would be appreciated.