What I Witnessed Growing Up Was Ok Between Them And Still Is

As a daughter of a Minister and a Social Worker you would think that my home life would have been normal. But no, my father used and abused my mother, and my mother took it over and over. When I was 10, 12, 14 etc I blamed my father. Now I blame my mother. She wanted to be treated like that. They are a perfect couple, he likes to abuse and she loves being abused. I just hope I never like that, it has to hurt.

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joyfullman

by joyfullman on Sep 27, 2022 at 2:34 PM

Sometimes because of their early experiences people crave and need things commonly seen as abusive. If they are compatible and it is consensual more power to them. Often early first sexual experiences greatly effect our later arousal triggers. Part of why those abused or violently initiated into sex imprint on that and need it for sexual satisfaction. The abused abuse statement comes from that. So somewhere they came to this place.

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AdultOrphan

by AdultOrphan on Sep 27, 2022 at 5:23 PM

The fact you've written it out coherently as you have means you understand what it is and therefore in an ideal position NOT for it to happen to you. You're acutely aware of it.
I've recently found out that such a relationship is called a trauma bond.
Thank you for sharing Cassandra, all the best

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Sep 27, 2022 at 7:22 PM

I had to stop talking about my husband. What other people claim is abuse, by him, turns me on and is why I accepted his proposal in the first place.

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