Straight Female / 30
On A Break
My boyfriend and I have had a very stressful year. We decided to take a break for the month of January. The break was supposed to be more of a way for each of us to get in our own space again and just work through the stresses of life - kind of like a life reset. We would talk multiple times a day and we basically would still be in each others life.
Everyone has something to work through. One of mine is my complete lack of sexual desire. I lost my mom maybe 18 months ago. I have a high paying, highly stressful career. I do not have kids due to some every teen years medical issues. My father has not been in my life since I was 8. I have one brother, but he lives 4500 miles from me. I have good friends and of course my boyfriend of three years. I am stable, easy going and mostly a calm and happy person.
One of my friends and I were talking last month about relationships - both the sexual and non sexual part. She admitted that her relationship with her husband has always been very good from a non sexual perspective, but sexually it was non existent. If you knew this woman, you could not understand why this was the case. She is beautiful and sexy and flirty. Turns out that she isn’t sexually attracted to her husband - at all. They decided to open their relationship and it has been a good opportunity to broaden her approach to sex.
She showed me her lifestyle profile to give me an example of what is out there and how she goes about it. She told me she could set me up with one of the men in her group or, if I wanted, I could attend their New Years Party with her. This would give me a wide range of men to survey and find the one I am attracted to. Hmmmm…a swingers party? Sounds over the top but I decided to attend with her.
The event was in a beautiful home about an hour from us. The attire was ‘comfortable’, which in the swinger world means dress as you feel the most sexy. I am not as attractive or fit as my friend. But I am not ugly, nor heavy either. In my own skin, I had to find something to wear that allowed me to be sexy and a little more less revealing. I did some online shopping and got the idea for a red or black body stocking. I went to the VS and the local xxx shop and found three.
Red it is. The feeling of putting on an outfit that covered me, but showed off all of me was intoxicating. My heels were red. The open crotch of the body stocking left me accessible and vulnerable. Everything was pointing in the right direction and my pointy nipples made that evident.
This night ended about nine hours later, in a hotel room with my friend, one male and one couple. The sex that I experienced was what I needed to remind myself that I am still a sexual person and that I still desire sex. Obviously, this was a situation designed strategically for sex. And obviously, I did what my desire allowed me to do. I could see myself in this lifestyle, but this night showed me I will be okay out of the lifestyle as well. Mission accomplished.
Everyone has something to work through. One of mine is my complete lack of sexual desire. I lost my mom maybe 18 months ago. I have a high paying, highly stressful career. I do not have kids due to some every teen years medical issues. My father has not been in my life since I was 8. I have one brother, but he lives 4500 miles from me. I have good friends and of course my boyfriend of three years. I am stable, easy going and mostly a calm and happy person.
One of my friends and I were talking last month about relationships - both the sexual and non sexual part. She admitted that her relationship with her husband has always been very good from a non sexual perspective, but sexually it was non existent. If you knew this woman, you could not understand why this was the case. She is beautiful and sexy and flirty. Turns out that she isn’t sexually attracted to her husband - at all. They decided to open their relationship and it has been a good opportunity to broaden her approach to sex.
She showed me her lifestyle profile to give me an example of what is out there and how she goes about it. She told me she could set me up with one of the men in her group or, if I wanted, I could attend their New Years Party with her. This would give me a wide range of men to survey and find the one I am attracted to. Hmmmm…a swingers party? Sounds over the top but I decided to attend with her.
The event was in a beautiful home about an hour from us. The attire was ‘comfortable’, which in the swinger world means dress as you feel the most sexy. I am not as attractive or fit as my friend. But I am not ugly, nor heavy either. In my own skin, I had to find something to wear that allowed me to be sexy and a little more less revealing. I did some online shopping and got the idea for a red or black body stocking. I went to the VS and the local xxx shop and found three.
Red it is. The feeling of putting on an outfit that covered me, but showed off all of me was intoxicating. My heels were red. The open crotch of the body stocking left me accessible and vulnerable. Everything was pointing in the right direction and my pointy nipples made that evident.
This night ended about nine hours later, in a hotel room with my friend, one male and one couple. The sex that I experienced was what I needed to remind myself that I am still a sexual person and that I still desire sex. Obviously, this was a situation designed strategically for sex. And obviously, I did what my desire allowed me to do. I could see myself in this lifestyle, but this night showed me I will be okay out of the lifestyle as well. Mission accomplished.
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