Schooling Helps

this may be a little long and not as sexually detailed as some posts, but here goes.

I ended up becoming friendly with a Arabic girl at work, Abla. She's very pretty, a bit modest by American standards and very wary of American men. I wasn't trying to start a relationship at all. We just spent 6 hours a day together and small talk led to a friendship. Friendship plus alcohol led to us dating and eventually hooking up. We took things slow, it was almost like being a teenager again, experimentation and discovery.

Ordinarily, I am a very gentle and giving lover and I think thats why Abla kept coming back, but this one night while we were just slowly going at it, I needed more and put the pillow over her head so she couldn't see me. I pulled my belt out of my pants laying on the bed and wrapped her wrists and started slamming her hard. She was tossing her head and yelling no, so I stopped. I apologized and she called it a night.

Needless to say, texts and calls went unanswered and I feared the next day at work. We were basically silent, and on break we went outside to hash it out. I promised it would never happen again, and we ended up making up and making out before returning to work. That night, she was different as we were watching some Netflix, and she initiated the sex. As we were stripping down, she pulled my belt and handed it to me, and extended her wrists. She sked me to tie them again but be slow and gentle. With the belt buckle looped , I basically had her on a leash and led her to my bed, where I went down on her until she was almost there. I then had her get on all fours with her wrists behind her back, I tied them snug and gave it to her doggie until we both finished almost together. As we laid back we talked and she said it was exciting to be tied like that.

That night opened the door to her bondage fetish. I bought some soft ropes and began experimenting on tying her up. Bondage videos helped, and I eventually found out about Shibari. As our bondage trails grew, I learned that it wasn't about pain or domination for her, it was the act, done slowly and sexy. It was the harness and knot tying, the way I had accessibility to tease and please her. I learned hitchs, bowlines, and different types of ropes having different usages. Her first armbinder and bikini harness took me over an hour to apply, then as I began to tie her ankles, I heard her moan. With her legs spread, I could gently lick then blow on her button and that was enough to have her go over the edge. As I was untying her, each rope and knot being undone and dragged across her skin would just set her off again. When i finally finished untying her, she pushed me back and gave the best blowjob I've ever had for anyone, and to completion, something she would never do.

It's now been several months, and our bondage sessions are about once a week or so. Breast bondage, suspension, and torsion does have effects on the body and we have learned to minimize marks and unwanted pain. Our relationship is now total trust and communication. I've begun studying Kinbaku , where even over her clothes, the tightness and rubbing came have her cum without outside stimulation.