I Can't Figure Out Why I Can't Move From Friend To Lover
Let me be clear, I am a wall flower, but I'm not queer. I've never been the object of some girl's affections.
I'm having a hard time believing that this confession is true. But, if it is, here goes. If you're 38 and can't find a man, you may want to soften your attitude. You are possibly projecting a lot of anger that people are explaining by labeling you "an angry lesbian".
When talking to you male friends, why not ask them out for a drink? There, you can explain your wallflower tendencies and show your interest.
Finally, it's 2024, people who live their lives differently than you deserve respect! Simply because you don't agree with their choices does not make them worthy of scoring. Also, it should be something that you consider. 38 and alone sucks, a lifetime alone is worse.
May I suggest you try going out to a club or bar in heels and a short skirt, with no panties. If nothing else, it should get a few bees flitting around your pistil.