Variable Blowjobs

I love blowjobs above all else, but my wife always finishes me with a handjob, and hasn't swallowed for years; she never did anal, and hasn't allowed intercourse for over a year. I have an ex who will give me blowjobs on demand anytime and keep them secret, but she lives over 100 miles away. I've gone to her a few times, but while sometimes she's done a great job, at other times it's not really worth the trip, because she's grown fat and disabled, and can't sit in front of me or frankly maintain any positions for very long except lying down these days. Also, her trailer house is filthy as she can't really clean it anymore, she sometimes can service me in a tent outside, which is semi-sheltered from neighbors' eyes, but on my last visit I had to finish inside with her on her back, and she'd just too big to face fuck that way, I had to suspend myself and jerk off into her mouth. She happily takes cum on her face or in her mouth, but the greatest joy is ejaculating while a woman continues to suck me, and I only get that occasionally from her. But I can't get it from anyone else these days, so it's a tough dilemma. If she lived closer it would be worth seeing her more often, but it's tough to plan out most of a day for such a visit and then have it not go quite right. I'm mostly just resigned to not having very good sex these days and satisfying myself. A third lady in my life is younger and incredibly hot, but lives over 1000 miles away; we occasionally have hot video sex, but we've never met in person, and I don't know if and when we'll ever will.