AITA Pt1

AITA for sleeping with a work buddies wife after he committed suicide? I know it sounds fucked up saying it but I don’t know if it makes me an asshole or not. So for the story we’ll call her Alexis 19F and her boyfriend (my old work buddies) Alexander 19M and myself 33M. So I’ve worked with Alexander since right after he turned 18. Actually I hired him and told him I’d give him a shot at our company even though he has no prior experience but he’s going to have to pay attention and work hard. Over the next few months from his start the kid worked extra hard. He’d show up 10 minutes late here and there but was always available to help whenever we needed a hand. He ended up helping out so much I was beginning to rely on the 18 year old more that I could on my 30 year old guys. So after 6 months I started to personally take him under my wing at work. The kid worked hard no doubt about that. Well he turned 19 and not much change. The only notable change is I’d let him come over to my house or I’d go over to his house sometimes and we’d hang out. I never ever did this with any of my “employees” became I didn’t want people thinking I was playing favorites. Alexander was different. He was mature for his age. He also lost both his mom and dad by 16 years old.. so anyway for 3qtrs of the year still nothing has changed. Occasionally he’d come into work and I could tell something was up and he’d say it was something between him and his girlfriend. Her and I almost never talked or interacted. She was doing her own thing or not there whenever I was at his house and she only came over to my house 2 or 3 times. So right before Alexander was about to turn 20 I hadn’t heard from him all weekend and didn’t think anything of it. That day I had a meeting with a client and wouldn’t be able to go over the morning plan until an hour or so later than usual that Monday morning. I meet with the client and step away and notice Alexander hasn’t responded back yet. I thought that was weird but he probably stayed up late playing video games and I was going to have to go wake him up. No big deal he’s been putting in the hours as he always would anytime he was needed. I’m about to get in my truck and drive to his house to wake him up and I get a call on the business number (not my business cell which is unusual) it’s Alexis and she sounds upset. I ask what’s going on and she proceeds to tell me that last night they got in an argument and Alexander shot himself in the head and he’s gone. I couldn’t believe it at first. I tell her I’ll call her back and proceed to process what I was just told. Well a week or so later she messaged me asking if I’d want to meet and go through his things with her as I was like his best buddy and mentor and she knew he’d want me to help. I go over and help how I can and she tells me that they are having a celebration of life for him and she’d like me to go. She also asked me if I’d move his motorcycle to a new location as I’m the only person he know that can and will move it for her. She also asks if I’d give her one last ride on it and of course I agree. The celebration for him goes well and the ride on his motorcycle was nice as well. Up until now no this has came up that was “different” from our new normal. At home later that night she text me telling me that she had tickets to a concert out of town that was originally for them to go and get away and have fun and that if I’d like to go with her she’d like that but if not she understood and wold probably just sell them. I didn’t know what to say so came up with a lame excuse and said I would love to but I’d have to work because things at work were a bit crazier especially now without my right hand man. So another week passes and i was on one of my apps and noticed she was on the app as well and I only knew that because her name was the same as her others on the app (mine wasn’t) so I message her messing with her and she almost immediately shuts it down and i say something that only someone that she actually knew would know and follow up with I think she’s a very pretty girl and has an amazing personality and that I’ll leave her alone now but hope that I was able to make her smile and I’ll disappear no weirdo stuff. Well she’s adamant about wanting to know who I am and asks if she guesses would I truthfully say if she was correct. So I think this will be fun so I agree. She thinks and guesses and doesn’t get it and she can’t think of who tf I could be. So I tell her can’t she just take a compliment from a anonymous associate of hers and smile and go about her day. She doesn’t go for that and insists on me revealing myself so just before I go into a meeting I give in and reveal myself and go into an hour meeting not able to message her.