I'm Straight, But I Love Her And Take Care Of Her.

My college roommate got back to the dorm with bruises and torn clothes, some guy she never saw before or after had sex with her. After that incident she became easy, went out to come home laid by someone, in her vernacular, she got lucky.

After college I joined a firm in the advertising department. My college roommate came with me. Went out to get lucky, jumped around jobs that she couldn't even remember, earned enough to buy her first drink, never paid her share of the rent.

My coworker, male, didn't like her. He said the obvious, she was taking advantage of me. He also said what I did not want to hear. She was an alcoholic, and a slut. How many men had cum in her? And to embarrass me, how many men had cum in me? None.

After one bad night, she got arrested for drunk and disorderly, she had danced naked on a table at a club. Her bail wasn't zero, he told me not to pay it, let her cool her heels in the drunk tank. I felt awful. He said 'she's not your problem'. I said, 'I take care of her'. He said 'you are an enabler'. I said 'I love her'. He said 'dump her'.

That's the problem, isn't it? Enabling the one you love. And he's not putting up with it. But I can't dump her.

There is only do much a man can take before he 'gets involved'. I didn't fight him, I woke up beside him, I slept at his place, I didn't tell her. I got dressed and went home to find her upset and angry. How could I let a man near me? Never mind the number of men who had cum in her.

The rest of the story is predictable. She lives with me, she's an alcoholic, she likes one night stands. He warned me, she's a 'leach', lives off me.

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Seagull57

by Seagull57 on Aug 8, 2025 at 5:18 AM

Crista, I hate to state the obvious, but your new fuck buddy is right! If you truly care for your friend and I believe that you do, you have to stop enabling her. Tough love is the most difficult to give, but it has to be done!
Think about it. You're 27, she's been using, abusing you for too long time already! Get her into rehab and force her to get a meaningful job. It doesn't matter what the job is, just be sure that it's far away from alcohol. Let her know that if she fails, there will be repercussions. Something tangible, like allowing your lease to end and she will be homeless.
Also, your fuck buddy sounds like a decent guy. He seems to really care for you.
Good luck!

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by Anonymous on Aug 8, 2025 at 6:42 AM

Yea, don't enable fucking drunks. However, I think there is something submissive about you and you like that she has control over you in some way. You need to go to therapy and deal with this issue and take control of your life.

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