I am pregnant with our second child and due in just a few weeks. Because my last pregnancy was over 10 years ago and we believed we were infertile, we don't have any baby gear around at all. After 8 years of trying to get pregnant, extensive fertility treatment, etc. we had given up. Now, we are elated, but financially strapped. We've managed to conceal how truly poor we are from friends and family because we live quite simply. However, we were hoping that someone would throw us a baby shower. Instead, I am due in less than a month and have started visiting the local thrift store. The only problem is that many secondhand baby items (crib, car sear, breast pump) are very, very unsafe to use. Should I say something to my loved ones?