We now want to be together but don't know how to come out and let our spouses know, we don't want to hurt their feelings.
Should we tell them or just get caught?
What would be easier?
Tell them. Believe me it will go so much smoother. You won't want the repercussions of being caught. If you weren't caught while you were married, why would you want that now?
I would be WAY more fun to get caught. Invite them both over, then you two disappear into the kitchen, then let them catch you screwing each other with whips and handcuffs and anal probes. Who knows, maybe they will join-in and start screwing each other, then they could not feel too bad about you two, could they? Perfect solution!!!
you are right, I guess it is working up the nerve to say it.
I really hate to hurt his feelings, I do still love him but in a friendship way.
I am hoping down the road he will forgive me.