Getting Older

by Anonymous on Mar 31, 2021 at 9:30 AM

My friend it's a sad but true fact that many women do lose a lot of sex drive as they experience normal hormonal changes. Your wife seems a bit young for this but it's definitely a phenomenon in what are called peri-menopausal or younger women.
Anyway, the point is that some wives will still have sex to please their man but there's no mistake that it's just not the same when their passion falls off.
What to do about it.
First is to talk with her calmly and not confrontationally, but explaining that you know she pleasures herself and you'd love to be a part of it. Maybe she'll use your hand in place of her own. Maybe she'll open up about her own fantasies and desires that she uses to masturbate to.
Worth a try. It can't get much worse right?
If you have no luck and hot sex with your wife is still a non starter, then you either do it yourself as you are doing or you have to find a passionate partner.
Now, many men do not want to cheat or sneak around with other women. Some of them find other guys in the same situation and the guys help each other out.
This is not to say that men having sex with men is necessarily a gay thing. It's often just a horny man thing. Just a couple of guys who aren't looking for a love affair, just wanna shoot some good loads with someone else who also wants sex.
It's just sex. It's just for release and fun.
Apparently there are women who even seem to encourage this and don't feel threatened if their hubby is having "play sex" with a guy. They seem to just not want him messing around with another woman.
Sorry if this is all making things even more complicated. Just trying to open the discussion and see if you get more replies.