Worrying About My BF's Potential Kink Is Making Me Want To Try It

I am a 28 year old latin woman who has been in a relationship for the last three years and I love my BF. He is tall caucasian muscular loving and well-endowed. I have a slightly higher sex drive but he has more sexual experience than I have. I have a high body count myself but mine is spread out as I lost my virginity in my teenage years. I then never went more than 8 months without a new sexual partner and less than two months without sex (and usually less than that particularly oral sex). I have had a variety of sexual partners of different races and body types. Many people have told me about my BF's sexual past and he has backed this up when I have asked him about specific details. He is unashamed about it or the fact that he lost his virginity in his 20's (he is 26 now) and then made up heavily for lost time nor about my own sexual history.
I have begun to notice recently however that he seems to have a kink or maybe even a fetish that a couple of my other partners seemed to have.
I believe he may want me to cheat on him or maybe even cuckold him with another man. I am not fully sure yet but there is some evidence of this.
Bf did nothing when a hot guy hit on me and got handsy while I was drunk and horny. I really enjoyed being hit on and seeing him do nothing but drinking and watching another man touch me. We had great sex after words and he said that he had been jealous when he noticed.
I saw that occasionally some of the porn he watches had cuckold or swinging elements and I watched and enjoyed them myself.
Saw him get hard at a party during sexy truth or dare where I had to strip partially and make out with another guy and twerk for another also had to admit my body count (54) I enjoyed watching him get a lap dance from another girl at same party.
Talked to him about previous sex partners and experiences and he got really horny and we had really good sex after.
Told him my boss and coworkers were being pervy and leering at me and complimenting my clothes and he started buying me more daring outfits and sometimes encouraging me to wear them to work to feel more confident. I got more attention when I did and I like it.
Told me about how his ex-gf cheated on him and I could see his erection and immediately gave him a sloppy bj and he quickly came.
After I told him that my friend had a history of cheating on her boyfriends and other slutty behaviour he kept asking me when was the next time I was going out with her and invited her over to a party we were going to.
Denying that he is hung (we measured and he's 7 inches long and 5 and a half inches in girth) and occasionally mentioning guys he knows who apparently have even bigger cocks than him often black guys. Most of these guys I've met and he is close with. I have seen and been with bigger but not many and not by much.
Picked out skimpy clothes for me to wear around his friends and out to clubs.
Asked me if I think of my ex's often sometimes during sex.
Keeps buying me more and bigger sex toys and asking to watch me used them.
Keeps encouraging me to drink more and loosen up on night's out (alcohol and especially tequila gets me horny)
Often leaves me to myself at parties including at beach pool and hot tub parties where I'm sometimes in a pool half naked surrounded by horny guys. He always stays relatively nearby. In the room over.
Doesn't mind when other guys such as his friends compliment my appearance and stare at my ass and tits.

By themselves they seem like nothing but together it makes it seem weird. Maybe he just like showing me off like some previous partners have and boosting my confidence through my sexuality. I really love him and he's the longest I've been with someone. The longer this goes on and the more I notice it, the more I like the idea of being shared but he hasn't said anything about being into that and he's very open about his sexual preferences. I really need advice about this because I have friends who have ruined relationships by trying swinging and I want to keep things as healthy as they are.

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Sofunone

by Sofunone on Jul 24, 2022 at 1:44 PM

Be open about it. Tell him the truth about your feelings on the relationship and you have no urges for other men if that is true. But tell him you want him to be sexually satisfied and you have gotten the impression, based on the items you described, that he may have fantasies about you with other men and let him respond. He may want to act on it but he also may want to just add the conversation to your sex. I dated a beautiful Puerto Rican girl for years. I never really wanted to see her with someone else but I loved talking to her about it while we were fucking. The first time it happened I was deep inside of her and I asked her if she had ever fucked a guy with a huge cock. She shook her head no but I said tell me I want to know and she said one time. I asked her if it was good and she said yes I asked her if she came hard on his big cock and she shook her head yes and I came big and immediately. After that the floodgates were open. Mostly it was me talking for a while but she started to get into it and asked me finally if I had ever had anal sex with a girl. I told her I had and she asked me if I was good and I told her it was. She had never done it and after a couple of weeks she asked me again and said she wanted to try it. We did it and once I was in her ass she came so hard she squirted and almost hyperventilated. That was probably also The most intense orgasm I ever had. I’d also say if you end up Being with someone else I would ask your boyfriend what he wants to see specifically. Just ask him if you he wants to see you suck another man’s big cock, another man pounding you etc. Good luck he’s a lucky man

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Another_55er

by Another_55er on Jul 24, 2022 at 3:29 PM

Jojo, Yes talk to him about this and both of your sexual desires and needs. You both seem able to adult sex talk.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jul 25, 2022 at 1:04 AM

Absolutely agree and the key point is talking and understanding each other's desires and any limits.
Be truly open with yourselves and continue to have a great relationship. You do sound like a man's dream.

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Anonymous

by Anonymous on Jul 25, 2022 at 9:41 PM

My husband was the same way. When he made it clear he wanted me to mess around on him I was terrified that he'd use it against me someday. When I first started stepping out, I did it on the sly mostly to see if my guilt would bug me too much. I didn't tell my husband because I didn't want to feel pressured to go through with it or humiliated if he reacted badly to it. I mostly stuck with exes and coworkers.

The first several times I openly cheated on my husband was to 'help out' my friends give their men threesomes. I found threesomes with my friends to feel really addictive. It was then that I learned I was really Bi. After that we started swinging. I liked swinging more than my husband and even went with some of my guy friends. Once I finally tried them, I discovered I liked orgies and GB's even more than threesomes. The more extreme things messed with my head more though. I really wish I lived during the hedonistic times when wives were the sexual entertainment of houseguests and visitors.

My sex monster phase started to end when I started having FMF threesomes with my husband. I didn't expect to love watching my husband bed other women. I know male cucks are common right now, but I've been the opposite ever since I tried being a cuckqueen.

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Jojo34

by Jojo34 on Jul 29, 2022 at 5:22 AM

Thank you for the comments and advice.
They have been very useful in making a plan to admit his fantasies. I admit that the more I've thought about it the more I like the idea of being shared. If he wants it so bad we can make it work i decided.

I decided that I would ask him about it while we were in bed but not having sex yet.
We were lying in bed on our phones when I asked him about threesomes.
He said that he actually had almost no experience there besides one drunk threesome years ago. When I asked him about it he said that it had been with two girls and I said that I was hoping it was a devil's threesome (two men one woman).
He was surprised and asked if I found them hotter and I admitted that I did. He asked me about my experience and I told him about the five threesomes I've had in the past and about how the one MMF one was way hotter.
As I told him he got hard and I started to stroke him as I told him about how it happened. I told him about one of the guys being black and him having met him a while ago at a party. He said that that was hot and I asked him why he liked that while I began to give him a slow bj.
He said that he found the idea of me being so naughty was hot and liked that I was still friendly with people I had fucked. I asked him why he liked that and he admitted that me being so casual and open about sex and having done slutty things was very attractive.
He was on the verge of cumming so I stopped and asked him if he thought I was a slut. He said no but sounded unsure. I said that I was a slut in the past and he nodded. I told him that I knew why he likes getting me drunk at parties and leaving me alone with other hot men. Why he likes seeing me get hit on and flirted with, why he buys me skimpy outfits and asks about my ex's. I wasn't even touching him but he was rock hard. He asked me to say why while grinning. I told him that I saw some of the porn he watches and that I enjoyed it.
I told him that he loves that I used to be a slut and grabbed his cock again. I told him that he was wrong about one thing though.
I am still that slut.
He was moaning now as I stroked him and I looked him in the eyes and I told him to come if he wanted me to be an even bigger slut and he came harder then I've seen him cum in months.
After we cleaned up I asked him if he really had these kinds of fantasies and he admitted that he does occasionally. I asked him if that's why he kept leaving me in those kinds of situations and he told me that he found it hot but also that he trusted me that nothing serious would happen. He asked me if I enjoyed it and I admitted that I liked the attention from other men. He told me that he liked seeing me confident and that I always seem most confident in sexual settings.
I had to hold back from hopping on his dick in that moment.
We discussed what bringing in this new fantasy means for us and after a long discussion we decided that:
Things will continue as they are but that we'll do some more roleplay during sex. He will trust me in even more sexual situations but that we won't do or allow anything more than groping and looking for now. We will look further into this kind of sexual lifestyle and continue to discuss it.
After this we had great sex even though he had just came and I'm more keen to try and arouse him in public more often.

Thank you so much for the comments. Having this discussion has resolved my worries that I've had about this for a while and given me an interest in trying it a bit. -JoJo34

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